My friend Kim invited me and a few of her other friends to Las Vegas for her birthday. I know and have hung out with the other ladies, but I’m the closest to Kim by far. She jokingly calls me her “adopted daughter.” Kim is turning 48 and the other ladies are in their late 40s to early 50s.
I know how busy Kim is, so I’ve been helping with the planning by making the dinner reservations and finding pool parties for us to go to. As far as the hotel, we settled on Aria. Kim really likes both Aria and The Cosmopolitan, but she told me that she chose Aria because it’s the cheaper of the two.
Well, last week, Kim told me that Jessica has decided to stay at a friend’s house instead to save money. So since only four of us would be staying at the hotel, Kim suggested that we get two rooms with two people per room. She told me that would room with Joanne, since she’s done so much for her (Kim owns a med spa and Joanne works with her). So that means that Monica and I would share a room.
I like Monica, but I told Kim that, ideally, everyone would just get their own room. I also said that since it’s her birthday, she, especially should get her own room. But she insisted that she didn’t mind sharing.
But I thought about it, and I realized that I would really like my own room. If it were just one night, that would be one thing, but we’ll be in Vegas for three nights. Also, Kim and I just saw Cardi B last weekend and spent the night. Since it was only one night, I had no problem sharing a room with her. But my morning and night routines are long and I kinda felt like I was hogging the bathroom, even though Kim seemed completely unbothered by it. I’m also a little self-conscious of my bodily functions.
So I went ahead and got my own room. It wound up being $1100 total. I told Kim a couple days later and she actually laughed about it and called me her “princess” (not in a condescending way). I told her that if she’s still set on rooming with Joanne, Monica will probably happily get her own room. But she said Monica won’t be able to afford a room all by herself. Even though she didn’t say it in a guilt-trippy way, I still kinda feel bad. I was not aware of Monica’s financial situation and now I feel like I’ve screwed up the hotel situation…
Sounds like NAH to me, if it comes to it they can switch who rooms with who or get a room with two beds and a pull out couch.
NTA
Monica can bunk with Joann and Kim. Wanting to be comfortable and happy on vacation is kinda the point of a vacation.
NTA.
Why can’t Monica get a cot and sleep with your other 2 friends in their room and have the 3 of them split? Or they can get a room with a king and sleep three across?
They’ll probably get a room with a pull out couch. I just hope it’s not too crowded for them
Hope y’all have fun and don’t worry about it too much. Your other friend who went to stay at a friends house also chose accommodations that suited her so don’t stress it.
soft YTA but not intentionally. like I get your reasons and they’re fair and fine. but the whole time inread that, I was thinking about Monica and what she’s gonna do and if that means she’s screwed into getting her own room too and how much more expensive that just made the trip Kim invited everyone on. vut i’ve never been in a financial position where me or anyone i’ve hung out with could jusr drop $1100 on a solo room just bc they wanted to, so I guess its natural that was where my thoughts were.
NTA I’m 53 and when I go on girls’ trips, we always get our own rooms. I put in my time sharing hotel rooms decades ago, and I’m not a 20 year old college student anymore. One of the benefits of age and better financial stability is I can cater to my own comfort and not feel guilty about it.
We still hang out in one room to socialize but when it’s time to actually sleep, we split off to our own. I love my BFF of 15 years, who I travel with a couple of times a year, but I could not share a bathroom with her! ❤️
It’s perfectly reasonable to have your own room, assuming you’re paying for it.
Well there’s no actual conflict here, but anyway I would have to think that Vegas hotels have rooms that can accommodate 3 people in one way or another.
I hate sharing rooms with people, and three days is a long time. It doesn’t sound like she’s upset about it, so I wouldn’t worry too much. The other girls will just need to figure it out.
I don’t think you’re the asshole but I do think you should and could communicate better so the other three could adjust accordingly even if that means another hotel. Communication is key. Eve if you’re not asking and stating what you’re doing then everyone is aware and can make their own informed decisions.
i had the same issue, i wanted my own room but my sister and friend threw a fit so i stayed, my friend didnt go in the end but my sister started a fight on the holiday, physically attacked me and i was stuck with her. im the sort who wants my own space, nothing to do with you, if you want your own space thats ok. they should stop crying and accept you as you are
NTA – there is no conflict here except for the passive aggressive jokes from Kim. Your points are valid and being in that age range, I would not want to share a room with someone who was not my best friend. You didn’t ask anyone else for money…you are all adults and are responsible for your own lives. Sucks Monica might not be in a position to afford a room on her own but there are rooms with couches. They can all share a room and maybe if you are in a giving place..throw a few bucks to help but not required.