So I have been saving up some of my money, and I thought I would get some blueberry, sweet bread. It’s not that big, and it was pretty expensive, so I asked them if they could ask before eating some because I probably was not going to get any for a bit after that, they did make some comments but they agreed because they also got their own snacks and they were pretty chill about it but then a couple days later my mom came up to me and said the wife of one of the family members came up to her and said that I was being disrespectful and saying that they should be allowed to eat some without having to ask and how the daughter was so upset about that and how I was not sharing (mind you they got an entire thing of cupcakes that same day and I was not allowed to touch it because it was only the daughters) and not only that when I came home from school not even 2 Days later it was gone and I obviously got pretty upset about this but my mom says I’m being too dramatic and it is just bread, AITH?
NTA, keep the bread in your room
NTA
How is this even a question? Get a cupboard or something in your room and keep your snacks there.
NTA. We all need our special little treats to get us through the horrors.
NTA. It’s a fair thing to ask, especially because they got their own snacks that you weren’t allowed to have. You might want to look into a way to keep your food secure. Not sure how old you are, but you may want to tell your mom that whoever ate your expensive bread owes you a new loaf, especially if you bought it with your own money.
NTA. Tf? It’s your food. I don’t know if there’s a cultural difference here (like different food expectations when hosting family) so maybe I’m missing some nuances, but it feels like some sort of odd entitlement to me
Info: How old are you? Are you an adult? If you are an adult, why are you still living at home where you have to worry about people eating your food?
Since this is Reddit, I can tell you that people are going to tell you that you’re NTA and to hide your snacks/food in your room so that other people in the home won’t touch it (or even know it is there at all). I guess that I am the minority because I genuinely don’t care if my family eats some of whatever I buy, but, one person in my house isnt like that while the other person is like me. I’ve never really understood the whole not sharing thing,
BUT, it is some real bullshit that your family or whoever they are bought cupcakes that you werent allowed to have because they belonged to the daughter but the daughter and her mother think theyre entitled to your bread without even asking. That’s not okay. If you’re going to say “this is mine and you cant have any”, then, you treat other people’s food the same way UNLESS YOU ASK FIRST OR ITS ALREADY AN ESTABLISHED THING IN THE HOME.
Your family members wife is teaching THEIR daughter really awful manners and is raising her to be an entitled, spoiled brat. Your family member (the girls dad?) Needs to nip that in the butt NOW and tell their wife that that is NOT how they are going to raise their daughter and that is NOT how they are going to treat your family. **They don’t even LIVE there!**
It’s some real audacity to go into someone elses home and just eat whatever you want without asking first. I could never do that, even with my own family members. That’s just so rude and unacceptable.
This was not cool of them. I would just say out loud at dinner that ‘I don’t appreciate whoever ate my bread. I worked and bought it for myself. Please don’t do it again.’ Don’t scream or yell and don’t look at anyone in particular.
Eat the cupcakes. NTA
NTA
This doesn’t need to be refrigerated or frozen so why are you leaving it in a common area. Keep it stashed out of site in your room and there will be no issue
Keep it locked up. You know who you live with and you knew they’d probably eat it all. Just lock your shit up and stop pretending you live with reasonable people who won’t steal from you.
Do yourself a favor, buy a Tupperware type of container, to leave in your room, that you can store the things you buy. You don’t have to tell anyone about it. Just make sure you’re not leaving open containers in your room to attract critters. It’s not right that you can’t have something but anyone can take your things.
NTA. sounds like your mom needs a backbone and you gotta bring your special foods to your room.
You’re NTA.
>I was being disrespectful and saying that they should be allowed to eat some without having to ask
That is ridiculous. It’s never disrespectful to be asked to show some basic courtesy.
>they got an entire thing of cupcakes that same day and I was not allowed to touch it because it was only the daughters
Talk about hoarding your cake and wanting to eat other’s too.
NTA, since when is it a crime to ask people not touch something you specifically bought? It sounded like you asked pretty politely and they agreed. Why does the wife feel entitled to this one loaf, it’s not like you said she’d have to ask before eating ANYTHING. It was a special thing you bought with your own money, it’s beyond reasonable to want to make sure you get any of it. You asked for a simple boundary that they agreed to and then trounced like it meant nothing, that shit is hurtful. They betrayed your trust, as simple as that and did not care about your feelings even after