Hi everyone! Me and my ex divorced early 2025. We had been together for 12 years and had 4 kids together. Me and my now fiance are planning on getting married in 2027. Courthouse wedding followed up with a family potluck style dinner. My kids love this man as much as I do and would be devastated if they weren’t involved in the wedding. My fiance suggested inviting my ex, his GF and her daughter. I said no because "he already made cry (not in a good way) at my first wedding and I don’t want to give him the opportunity to do so again." 2 of my 4 kids don’t care to see him but the younger 2 still ask about seeing him all the time. WIBTAH if I don’t invite them to the wedding/dinner?
Hold up. You’ve been with your fiance for a year, after a twelve year relationship, and you’re getting married next year? Do you even know who you are as a single person? YTA for bringing him into your childrens’ lives way too early. This whole situation is icky.
Agree, to already be engaged this quickly is a red flag no matter what. Yes some relationships last when they move quickly, but more dont. Now add in the dynmaic of endbof ling relationship, freshly divorced and 4 kids and there hasnt been time for anyone to adjust to the new family dynamic. I am going OP is codependant and has a very small if not nonexisitant friend support system.
Is no one else a bit concerned that after a 10+ year marriage with 4 kids she’s engaged to a new man within less than a year?
Isn’t this a bit…fast? Like the kids probably aren’t even fully adjusted to a split family yet, and bringing in a new partner slowly itself takes time but less than a year?
I have the same concern, the younger children still dont understand otherwise they wouldnt be asking to see dad.