Hello everyone so my cousin is having a 40th birthday bash this coming Sunday. The only problem is he might invite my Uncle whom I have an order protection against. I already told my cousin to let me know if he’s coming and why I’m having reservations. He says he doesn’t want to leave anyone, which is understandable. I want to go the party and stay for only 2 hours then leave. I just don’t want anyone to hinder from fun events. On the other hand, my safety is my first priority. My uncle behaves well in front of certain people and environments. I just don’t want him to even try to engage. WIBTAH if I didn’t even go?
your safety is literally more important than any party. if your cousin can’t respect your protection order, that’s on him not you.
NTA you have an order of protection for a reason and your safety is more important than a party.
If your cousin is in effect saying he will be there then don’t go.
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Your safety comes first, no question. If there’s a protection order in place, that’s already serious enough that you shouldn’t feel any pressure to be around him, even in a “safe” setting.
It’s fine to skip entirely. It’s also fine if you decide to go briefly only if you get clear confirmation he won’t be there. But you shouldn’t have to show up and just hope things go okay.
Your cousin not wanting to exclude anyone is understandable, but that doesn’t override your safety. You’re not ruining anything by protecting yourself.
If anything, the simplest approach is just saying you can’t make it but you hope they have a great time. You don’t owe anyone more explanation than that.
NTA…Your cousin made ot clear that your uncle is not uninvited. just bow out quietly with no drama.
YWNBTA. Don’t go, it’s not worth the risk of encountering your uncle. Take your cousin out for dinner or something, some other time.
YWNBTA because you don’t need to be in the same place as someone like this
NTA Safety first. IF they cant say No he is not coming, you have to say sorry I am not. Its not fair to make them choose but you have a legal order so in this case a choice must be made.
You can just tell your cousin you can’t go because you wouldn’t want to cause your uncle to break the protection order. If you’re there, that means legally he cannot be. NTA
If your cousin won’t guarantee that your uncle won’t be there, then it’s incumbent upon you to ensure that you are not there.
NTA. Although your cousin is.
NTA but if my cousin had an Order of Protection against another relative, I don’t care if they are my own mother they won’t be coming to my party. I think it’s weird they are including him at all.
Since you have an order protection, you should contact the police immediately if your uncle is present. Poof him away.
Your cousin should know this rule unless he wants drama on his birthday so let be welcome.
You are the only one have a power, not your uncle.