I (20f) and my roommate (19f) have had some problems because before moving in together we setteled on cleaning standards which she proceeded to practically ignore.
Last weekend she hosted friends which are also my friends and i offered to cook.
We decided i will cook shell do the dishes and we split on cleaning.
So i cooked dinner and brunch, cleaned dishes while cooking, and we split cleaning at the end. Then to the dishes.
I did close to half the dishes while cooking she was supposed to handle the rest * as we agreed on * . She didnt.
I decided not to wash them no matter what. I barely used the kitchen because of that but decided washing it wouldn’t do anything and its her responsibility. I still did other things i had to do like brooming and washing the floor, didn’t do my dishes because the sink was full.
She finally came to clean them after a week and she’s angry at me.
So AITA for leaving the dishes until she does them.
Nah you’re not the problem here. You did your part and she bailed on hers, so you letting the dishes sit was literally the only way to make the point. If she wants adult roommate rights she needs to do adult roommate chores. Sounds like she’s mad she got caught slacking.
Or she got made that OP waited her out longer than she had before.
NTA. I am also not the best person when it comes do dish washing (unfortunately, but at least I live alone so it could just bother me). But I know fully well it’s my responsibility especially if that is what has been agreed before.
NTA, You cooked, you cleaned your part, and she agreed to do the dishes, then didn’t. Holding her to responsibility isn’t petty
Honestly, your roommate sounds kinda entitled. You cleaned your half, she didn’t, so letting her deal with it is fair. You didn’t mess with her stuff otherwise, so I’d say you’re in the clear.
Why is she angry?
Because OP didn’t cave and forced the roommate to do the part she was supposed to do from the start
NTA
Gift her disposable cutlery and stop making deals with her that divide cooking/cleaning, she is NOT reliable.
Oh, poor baby! Your roomie was forced to do her chores. I’m so sad for her. Roomies like her are why I’d live in my car rather than ever share space again. I don’t know whether she’s lazy, an airhead, or used to Mommy cleaning up for her, maybe all three, but she’s not ready to adult.
Like my mom used to say “ She has 2 problems she has to deal with. Getting mad and getting over it”
NTA. She’s mad at you for not doing the work she said she’d do.
She said she’d do it, she didn’t do it and it’s your fault, how?
NTA. She’s gross.