This Halloween I met my sister new boyfriend for the first time and it did not go well. I am getting very different opinions when I talk about this with my mom and step dad verse anyone else.
Me and the guy I am seeing went out for Halloween, after the bar we went to my sisters house to hang out and stayed there for maybe 5 minutes before I was asked to leave. This is the very first time I have ever met my sister new boyfriend.
The first thing that threw me off is when I first walked in. My sister introduced me as her sister. Her new boyfriend looked over at me and said "Wow" in a way that I found weird. I was dressed as tinkerbell and my outfit was kind of revealing so I changed into my pjs right away. talking to my mom she thinks this is normal and anyone would say that but i do not agree.
Second thing (the big thing) we just sat on the couch, and the blue jays game was on. I was talking about the game on the TV and in the middle of me speaking he interrupts me and goes "t t t t t today junior." Keep in mind I just met him like 5 minutes ago. I found that extremely rude personally but my mom and step dad are telling me its not. Here is where I know I am a bit of an asshole…. I did respond with "say that to you hairline not me because why is it all the way back." Anyways as you can imagine that did not land well.
I later messaged my sister saying "I am sorry for saying something so personal but I am not sorry for saying anything because that was rude."
She refuses and thinks I am the only one who was in the wrong. thoughts?
NTA
“You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” You had a bad one but nothing says you can’t change your mind.
But yeah, he was a rude a-hole. You are in your right to give back as good as you get. I’m guessing you have a stutter problem and he made fun of it?
But yeah. He played stupid game and won stupid prize, and didn’t like it. I have to say, I’m quite impressed by your comeback.
>”t t t t t today junior.”
INFO: do you have a stutter?
I do not have a stutter usually sometimes I do stutter when I am nervous.
Info: what does the “t t t t t today junior” means?
👏🏼 👏🏼 perfect response. He was being an AH. Who says that to someone they just met? AH’s.
Stutter or not, we all know it was rude when Billy Madison did it. At least you didn’t pull him out by his ear to tell him how inappropriate he was.
Your sister, mom, and stepdad are siding with a brand new boyfriend?
I am so sorry, OP. I would ignore them all for a little while. And tell them why.
I think my mom just wants us to get along and keep the peace. She thinks that he should apologize too but thinks I took the wow in a different way than he meant. And think I took him saying t t t t today junior in the wrong way. But I just don’t see how that possible. It’s rude and I feel like I’m being treated like I’m crazy for thinking that’s rude
Nah. I thought the wow wasn’t a big deal until just now. This guy has already decided he doesn’t respect you. Tinkerbell doesn’t play, and you don’t either. Great job my fellow fae!
This makes no sense, why would you change into pajamas at your sisters house? How did you watch a game if you were asked to leave within 5 minutes?
He’s the rude asshole. You did nothing wrong.
Edit: NTA
NTA.
I don’t think his reaction to your Halloween costume is worth worrying about. But him interrupting you and mocking your speech is incredibly rude. I’m assuming there was just a pause while you thought of the right word or player’s name, but if you actually have a speech impediment then he’s a next-level AH.
But certainly, if he’s going to be that rude right out of the gate, he can handle a comeback.
ESH He started it but you didn’t have to go there. But you keep pajamas at your sister’s house?