My girlfriend (23F) and I (23M) recently started living together. We’ve been together since college, and now that we’re under the same roof, we’ve discovered a lot more about each other. We both work full-time, and our days are pretty packed.
I always knew she plays a mobile game every day, but it wasn’t an issue before living together. The problem is that this game is Clash Royale, which (in my research) is a toxic competitive game. She plays it for about an hour every night before sleep.
She gets angry and frustrated after playing, every single night. After the game, she becomes moody for 40-50 mins. That mood gets directed at me. Basically I get punished for her game. I’m tired of ending my day dealing with her post gaming angry mood.
Because we already work all day and only have limited time together, I expected that nighttime before sleep would be us time, not for her gaming meltdown. I think gaming is fine when it’s for stress relief and entertainment, but this game just stresses her more. I looked online and saw a lot of people saying the game is toxic and can cause these exact emotions.
I told her many times that it’s affecting me. I asked her to either limit gaming or control her emotions afterward. She understands and even deletes the game but reinstalls it the next day. This cycle happened multiple times. So ultimately nothing changes.
I’m not a fan of online games, and I don’t want to sit there watching a show alone while she plays. We already watch a web series together before she starts gaming.
So I eventually told her seriously that I need her to *restrict this game* because nobody likes being around a moody person every night. But she still didn’t change.
Because I’m tired of this, it’s to the point I don’t wanna face her after she plays because I know she will piss me off. Now I’ve started nightouts out more with my male friends and sometimes doing sleepovers at their place at night. She hates sleeping alone and isn’t happy about this, but I told her clearly:
I won’t care about her feelings if she doesn’t care about mine, meaning she needs to seriously restrict that game and stop being moody afterward. Now she stays moody all day. AITA?