My 8yo Sams school regularly has ‘special person days’ for grandparents, father figures and mother figures.
It’s extremely inclusive, stepdads /grandfathers/uncles attend as well. For example one of my son’s friends is raised by his aunty and uncle, who attend the mother/father figure days. An older friend of mine attends the grandparent days with my kids, because my parents are 6 hours away.
A few weeks ago they had a ‘escape room’ themed night for father figures. It’s sponsored by local mens organisations, and very popular in our community.
My older son attended with Sam, when Sam asked him too because Sam wanted to do the escape room.
He was not the only older sibling there.
The school posted photos to the Facebook page, and my ex husband saw. He is claiming alienation and that I’m cutting him out of their lives.
However
1. He works away 2/1, and can’t come back outside of emergencies.
2. When the dates lined up a few months ago, he didn’t take our youngest because he was too tired.
So he couldn’t have gone, and didn’t want to last time he was invited.
I understand he’s upset about missing out, but Sam shouldn’t have to stay home just because dad isn’t home.
AITA for letting my son attend for Sam?
(I’m not worried about the alienation claims as I have records with all visitation and communication, and *I* pushed for 50/50 when we divorced, but he didn’t want that. He is free to see the children as much as he wants and he currently chooses 2-3 days of his week off. The kids have keys for both houses and we are close enough that they ride bikes/take the bus between houses, (and the older 3 always have spending money and full bus cards so that’s not stopping them from visiting) so are free to visit wheneve. Before we worked away, he saw them every second weekend, by his choice.)