recentl, like really recently (about 2 weeks ago) one of my friends got into a relation ship. but it literally looks like a middle school relation ship even thought we’re in hight school (grade 11) i have never seen them talk other then akward compliments and saying ‘hi’. but he talks about her all the time, hes in most of my classes and the girl hes dating is one of my close friends. and it kinda cute but its not really dating (its so akward) but he always talks about it to the pount that everyone in my grade has some part in it even if they arent friends with either. he asks everyone if theyre a cute couple (YOU HAVENT SPOKEN MORE THEN 12 WORDS TO HER) and if she should make a move (HE HASNT EVEN KISSED HER YET!) my other friend has a talking phase longer then his crush on her. and she doent even seem to like him that much, she looks like she wants to die everytime he makes a scene.
i want to tell him so bad that two of my other friends have been dating for 1 1/2 years and no one outside that friend group knows, not because theyre keeping it but because they dont scream at the top of their lungs that theyre the perfect couple.
so should i do it or WIBTA?
hi at first i thought you meant he was getting cheated on but do you mean that he talks about being in a relationship so much and he’s not the only one that you know other people in a relationship? Or do you mean the friend you are close with that he’s datjng has been dating someone else for 1 1/2 years ?
i mean its the only thing he talks about and its anoying to be around him beacuse no one can talk about anything else when hes around
They’re just sick of hearing their friend talk about his girlfriend. That’s it. They don’t think they talk to each other enough for it to be a relationship (disregarding the fact they could be texting or talking on the phone just fine and both just awkward in person). They want their friend to be more like their other dating friends who apparently don’t talk about each other (somehow not talking about the person you’re dating means it’s a better or more real relationship I guess).
Alright i understand now , it kinda seems like he cares too much what other people think of the relationship but won’t really talk to her and see if she thinks they’re a good couple and if she wants him to make a move. I get that you guys are young but he has to be able to talk to someone he calls his girlfriend but as the commenter above said they could be talking on the phone and just be awkward in person which I could definitely relate to lol . My advice to OP is to not say anything to him and maybe talk to your close friend about it and see if she’s happy with her relationship because really , that’s all that matters if the two of them are happy
YTA I hate to break it to you, but teenagers are going to act like teenagers. Yes, you would be the asshole if you told him to shut up and stop being so giddy about the girl he likes liking him back. You should also learn to manage your expectations on the maturity and sophistication level of 11th graders.
YWBTA. You want to bring up another relationship simply because you find how he is handling his annoying. What should you do? Mind your own business.
its other people buisness when he brings everone into it, i wouldnt say it in a rude way ofc, but whenever hes around if anyone trys to change the subject away from her he doesnt let that happen and if anyone else trys to bring up anything he just talks abput her. the whole school is more involved in their ‘relationship’ then the girl hes dating is
grow up.
Let him live in his little romcom era. It’s cringe but harmless, and telling him about your other friends relationship won’t fix anything. If anything he’ll just get louder about his.
YWBTA, if you can’t talk about anything else just say that. If he interrupt a talking subject again just say.
“Look, I am really happy for you. And I love to hear about it. But right now we are talking about XYZ. ”
Don’t do it. YBTAH.