I had my birthday party 2 weeks after my actual birthday due to the seasonal work i do so it would be finished in time for my party which I planned 6 months in advance, one of my partners best friends (lets call him Peter) birthday fell on my party night (I didn’t know this until a few days before the party).
Peter arrived about 2 hours late to the party and I approached him to say happy birthday and gave him a hug, we are usually friendly with each other so I was shocked when I was met with a bit of a bad attitude but oh well I continued on having fun with my friends. An hour had passed and Peter went to his car and came out with a massive speaker which over powers mine and places in the centre of the party and starts blasting music, I ask my partner to please tell him to turn it off as my party was 70s themed and I had a certain playlist on for earlier in the night, Peter turned his music off and then made a comment that no one liked the music I was playing and the vibes were shit and one of my close friends had told him to get his speaker (which wasn’t actually true) he actually asked her if the old people had left yet and then he continued to grab his speaker on his own. My partner even made a sly comment in front of me saying “don’t worry Peter her speaker will be dead in 10 minutes anyways” which really upset me because i saved up to buy my speaker for the party and I was really proud of it. (JBL 320 which cost me $600) his speaker is a $1600 soundbok.
Around 20 minutes later Peter decided to grab his speaker and grab a bunch of the boys and they head over to play his own music at full volume over powering my speaker once again, I told my partner please shut it down and he did.
Fast forward another 10 minutes and my speaker all of a sudden changes music, I go in to where it is to connect back to it, Peter and one of our other friends had come back inside to where I was and sat beside me on their phones, Peter was in Spotify and my phone disconnected again so I snatched his phone out of his hands when he says smartly to me “I’m not even connected” our friend beside him through his phone into his lap and said “YOU TOLD ME TO CONNECT” to Peter and then I blew up and told him to get the fuck out of my house and if he wasn’t being such a c*nt then he would of been involved in the cake cutting. He left and now my partner is embarrassed because of how I reacted. My partner has said he isn’t taking sides in this. This is what I actually feel bad about but I couldn’t help but feel he wasn’t being truthful with me and Peter had sent him a message on his phone and I read it, which read Peter “I don’t know what her fucking problem is this is bullshit” my partner: “ yeah I’m with you I don’t know what her deal is”
So am I the asshole for kicking him out?
NTA. Your house, your rules. It was your birthday party and if Peter wanted his own party, there was nothing stopping him from doing that at his own place.
Shoddy behaviour from your partner too.
Your bf friend is an ass but your boyfriend is an even bigger one. No matter the circumstances, my husband would never let anyone disrespect me.
You should’ve kicked out your boyfriend too
With a boyfriend like that, who needs enemies?
He’s happy talking shit about you behind your back and lying to your face. You can do better.
For real, OP 100% has a boyfriend problem.
NTA, but your partner is the bigger problem. He needs to control his friend. He absolutely needs to take a side. If he can’t, then you need to ask yourself why you are with someone who won’t back you up.
happy late birthday. NTA in the slightest, its YOUR birthday party.
you got two gifts:
1. fun night with your friends
2. evidence to dump ur shitty boyfriend
NTA. I’m embarrassed that you still call this boy your partner. He’s obviously not. He allowed his friends to treat you like crap at YOUR party. I would have told them all to gtfo.
your bf didn’t like the playlist and wanted to hijack your party. he used peter to do it.
c’mon, you can’t be that blind. you’re better off without him.
NTA, but you will be to yourself if you keep on in this relationship.
Um hello?? Your boyfriend did pick sides.
Your partner def took a side. It just wasn’t yours.
You’re worried about the wrong person. Screw Peter, he was being a baby. But your boyfriends behavior is a huge issue. A partner should always have your back, unless you do something crazy and this isn’t that. He watched his friend disrespect you at your own party, tells you he’s not taking sides, but obviously took his friends side behind your back. You should examine your relationship for other times he’s not been there for you and go from there. NTA.
I’m embarrassed for you and cringing at you for the very fact that you only kicked out Peter and not your loser “partner”. He should be an EX by now. Girl get some self esteem in you!
How old are y’all? You’re surrounded by infants. Get out.