So me and my wife have been arguing about this and now my daughter is upset too. I keep a lot of stuff stored on my home server I like to keep videos of important family moments but they also include times when people messed up. My wife says it is humiliating and my daughter said it is creepy that I keep them. I dont think I am wrong.
For example I have home security footage of my wife hitting my parked car in our driveway. I also have dashcam footage of her rear ending someone a few years ago and then hitting another car when she tried to switch lanes right after. Plus I have some old video from my college graduation where she was my girlfriend at the time and she is seen crying because she failed a class and could not graduate with me. She says I am keeping it just to be mean. She never got sued or anything for the car stuff so I figured better safe then sorry just in case someone tries something one day.
Then there is my daughter. When she was first learning to drive the dashcam caught her scraping a parked car and not even noticing. She also once drove right into our garage door because she mixed up the pedals. Again I figured this is something we should keep incase we get blamed later or insurance issues. When she was a kid I filmed a school dance thing and she wet herself on stage. It is only like 3 minutes of a 45 minute video but she says it is gross I still have it.
My son does not mind. He even jokes about it. I have a couple videos of him playing baseball where they lost really bad but he laughs about it and says maybe one day it will be funny to show his kids.
My wife says I should delete at least the embarrassing parts and that I care more about storing data then about peoples feelings. My daughter wont talk to me about it anymore she called me weird and said she feels like she is always being watched.
I keep trying to say that it is not like I show these videos to anyone but us and if someone decides to lie and claim they got hurt in one of those crashes then we have video proof. I feel like they are blowing it way out of proportion.
So AITA for refusing to delete my own family videos even if some of them are embarrassing stuff that maybe they dont want to remember?
What *realistic* and *conceivable* reasons do you have for keeping the following:
\- “I have home security footage of my wife hitting my parked car in our driveway.”
\- “I have some old video from my college graduation where she was my girlfriend at the time and she is seen crying because she failed a class and could not graduate with me.”
\- “She also once drove right into our garage door because she mixed up the pedals.”
\- “When she was a kid I filmed a school dance thing and she wet herself on stage.”
Coz frankly none of that seems to have any value or worth other than for manipulation and emotional blackmail.
Edit: OP has not managed to provide any justification in their response, and looking at other posts shows no valid reasons for having this footage. So clearly a full YTA with other connotations.
YTA. Especially for trying to call them “family videos.” Security camera footage of your wife hitting your car isn’t a family video. And why tf do you need a video of her crying because she couldn’t graduate? It does sound mean.
YTA
Those aren’t “family videos”…. those are security camera footage of the women in your life hitting vehicles or crying or wetting themselves.
You sound like you like to laugh at the women in your life and as if you don’t like them very much.
The worst you have of your son is him… losing a couple of baseball games.