My (26F) sister (24F) just bought a house. She has previously been living with my parents. For context, I’ve been moved out for 6 years and now live about 3 hours from my parents and sister (they live in the same area).
When I was in high school, I asked for a Keurig for Christmas (my parents don’t drink coffee). My sister and I both used it throughout high school and then when I moved out, I left it at my parents. My sister continued to use it while she was living there, and I continued to use it when I visit my parents (I have a small stash of K cups that I store at their house so I can have a cup of coffee in the morning and continued to clean it throughout the years).
When I last went to visit my parents, I saw that the Keurig wasn’t there and I asked about it. My mom said my sister had taken it to her new house. I said it was my Keurig and that I like to have it there so I can have a cup of coffee in the morning during the one weekend a month I usually spend with my parents. I ended up going to Dunkin Donuts for coffee that weekend, but I mentioned to my sister that she took my Keurig (and implied that I wanted it back). She got snippy and said she wasn’t going to buy a new one when there was a perfectly good one that wasn’t being used. I told her she could consider that her housewarming gift from me then and she said I was being an asshole.
I’m considering buying a new Keurig (that will almost definitely be nicer than the 10 year old one she took for her house) on Black Friday and leaving it at my parents with strict instructions that it stays there. My husband said doing that is super rude and that I should just give my sister the new Keurig as an actual housewarming gift and bring the old one back to my parents. He thinks I am being an asshole for making a big deal about the Keurig.
NTA, your sister was wrong, you WERE using it! Your husband however is TA.
NTA. It’s yours and you were using it in a way that you wanted. She had no right to take it.
Maybe her parents were sick of it taking up space in the kitchen when it only got used 12 weekends a year for the last 6 years but “the owner” who left it behind when she moved out . I assume she has a new one at home or she would have taken it. As a 10. year old appliance is has no resale value and I assume her sister did all the maintenance and cleaning it required for the last 6 years it was there and she used it
Maybe they should have told her to take it, or they would give it to her sister then.
Edit: NTA
If her parents were sick of it they should have said something, that’s how adults communicate.
My parents said they couldn’t remember whose it was so they didn’t question it when my sister took it. They have a big kitchen and counter space is not a problem. My dad offered to buy a new one for their house, I said absolutely not since they don’t even drink coffee. I would never expect them to spend their money on an appliance they never use
ESH
it obviously meant little to you, you are having one coffee a month. so let it go.
you sister is an A too, why wouldn’t she just say “oh I took it because I use it all the time, but if you want it I’ll drop it off to you”.
Unpopular opinion but thieves don’t get rewards. They all knew it was yours, and you use it literally every week it’s not some dusty thing she found in an attic. You literally left it there specifically to have coffee when you visit your parents it doesn’t mean it was up for grabs.
ESH but please do not listen to these people about giving her the new machine ?! Why the eff would you when she literally stole your old one ?
She technically stole your property, she doesn’t deserve a brand new one, she doesn’t even deserve the old one she stole. If she wanted it, she should have called you and asked you if she could have it and offered to go half into buying you a new one.
NTA
It’s really your parents’ decisions since it was sitting there at your parents house using space to be used once a month.
NTA, and the comments saying you are are bizarre. You left it at your parents’ house to use it there. It’s not like you dumped it in basement storage or something. Sister is a thief who figured it was easy pickings and does not deserve a new one, much less that one. Tell your husband to butt out and enjoy your machine.
ESH. She should have asked you, but you shouldn’t act so outraged about a 10 year old machine that isn’t even at your house that you use rarely. This is about more than a Keurig, I think.
It was a Christmas present to her from her high school days. She has every right to be upset that a gift that was given to HER, which she DID USE, was taken without being asked for.