Posting this from a throwaway account. So Me (21F) and my friend (21F) were really good friends in high school. I was a people pleaser so I want to be friends with everyone and make sure everyone got along in our class. My friend was a bit annoying and a pick me girl, due to which not everyone liked her. I was the the bridge of communication between her and the rest of the class which I did not mind as I liked doing that. We ended up going to the same university and my friend was really excited as we could always be together. During university she wanted to lie about certain aspects of her life which include:
1. Where she studied in middle school (she was in a different school and city)
2. About her past relationships (how many she’s had or who they were)
3. Where she’s from
So basically it was a lot. She told me this outright and asked me to not let it slip. I said yeah sure, I would try but can’t promise anything since these are a lot to remember and i don’t want to lie to anyone.
Anyway, we both had a few mutual friends but we spent majority of our time in different friend groups (I knew some of her friends but I did not know how close they were or any specific details). Anyway fast forward to month 4 of being in university, I met a girl from their friend group on the train, she recognized that we go to the same university and we started talking. She asked me a couple of questions about myself and once I revealed that I went to my high school, she then quickly asked me if I knew ‘my friend’. I did not want to lie and say no because we have stories together on Instagram so I said yes, I know her. I also had to tell her that we did not go to the same middle school as the girl asked me directly. And a few days later, something similar happened with another guy and he found out where my friend is really from (Basically I was hanging out with another high school friend when this guy asked me about it and I couldn’t lie even if i wanted to as this another friend also knows the truth).
Anyway, all this came out in their group hangout apparently where all her friends were shocked at how much she had lied to them. They confronted her and they praised me for telling them the truth and being ‘nice’. And she got really pissed at me for breaking her friendships and sent me a messaging telling me to ‘never tell anyone we know each other’ and that ‘i should change the topic if something similar ever comes up’.
I am really hurt because I never intended for any of this to happen but I also had said that I would never lie. But the more I think about it, the more I feel guilty – maybe i could have tried a bit harder.
So am I the asshole?
Why does anyone care about this nonsense? How do you know they all praised you? were you there? This sounds really odd to me you randomly meet someone on a train and they start to quiz you about some other person. I am not buying any of it.
No, my friend told me this. When we went for coffee, she told me the whole story of what happened and asked for my side of the story. She basically wanted me to explain ‘why i betrayed her’.
This random person was not that random, it was one of those situations where I’ve seen her on campus and so has she. We ended up sitting next to each other on the train (40 ish mins journey) and we randomly started talking about ourselves, our courses, where we are from etc.