Burner account so my friends don’t find this.
I (16m) have a small-ish friend group. There’s me, my two guy friends from childhood, and now one of them has a gf (16f). They’ve been dating for like two years now and we’ve never really gotten along. He says it’s bc we’re too similar but I just think she’s annoying. She’s always hanging around and wanting to be involved. She can be mean and she talks back and everyone just thinks its funny but I always seem to be a target.
This weekend we were hanging out at my house playing video games. She’s not really a normal girl and she likes to play with us, and she was literally beating us at everything. It was really starting to annoy me bc I can’t remember the last time we hung out without her. I don’t think she likes being at home, her family seems kind of shitty but idk how she doesn’t have other friends to go be with.
It was getting late so I told her she should go home. Immediately her bf jumped in and said she didn’t have to if she didn’t want to. I told her that she had to go bc my mom wouldn’t let a girl sleep over. She got mad and said that wasn’t fair bc my gf stays over sometimes. It turned into a big argument between all of us. My mom came in and told us to knock it off, and that’s when the gf grabbed her stuff and stormed out. Her bf went with her and now he’s not talking to me at school.
Our other friend said I was too mean to her and that she’s part of the group. I never agreed to her being part of the group. AITA?
Yes you’re an asshole. You’re mad a girl beat you at video games.
YTA and sound not just jealous but also misogynistic but you’re 16 so hopefully you’ll grow out of it.
YTA. “She’s not like other girls, she plays video games and hands me my butt”. Instead of having a private discussion with your friend about how you’d like to hang out without the girlfriends sometimes, you threw a tantrum and acted like a three year old to the point where your mom had to tell you to knock it off.
You don’t have to like her, but your friend obviously cares deeply about her. To the point he’s made his choice.
Yta for sure. For being a baby abt losing, for lying abt ur mom not allowing her to stay, and for not making bigger effort to accept someone not like u into ur group of friends.
YTA, and now you’re not part of “the group” anymore.
Don’t worry, they’re better off without you.
YTA – You should talk to her on the side about her bagging on you all the time, but also, friends do that because it’s funny to mess around. Lying isn’t the answer either it just makes you look rude af.
Even only hearing your side of the story, YTA. My favorite part was when you said she “talks back,” as though she were a child and you were an adult in a position of authority. 😂
Have you considered that the things you dislike about her might be traits your friends also tolerate in you?
So she’s better at video games than you are and quick with a roast. Maybe you could learn a few things from her.
You sound rude and entitled. You even say you believe she doesn’t have a good home life and you chose to be an A and throw a fit because she’s better than you at video games. Clearly she enjoys being with your friend group and you let jealousy get the best of you. Your friends are better off without you and hope you grow out of whatever insecurity you have with women.
YTA . ‘ not a normal girl’ huh? Because she beats you at games l guess. I think you sound a bit insufferable , but l do understand you feel you have lost your preferred group dynamic and that’s hard at any age, but esp yours.
Sorry dude, but you are going to have to get better at boy/ girl stuff.
YTA
If you don’t like hanging out with her, you should have talked to your friend privately about not bringing her around all the time. If other people’s gfs aren’t going to be there, then tell him it’s a boys night and ask him to come solo.
But when she’s hanging out with you guys, there’s no need to be rude to her. Kicking her and just her out wasn’t the right call, neither was lying about your reasoning, and of course her bf had her back and left with her. You also gotta realize that you aren’t king of the friend group and your agreement is not required to add someone from the group. Groups go by majority, so if the majority of the group want them in, they’re in. And it sounds like she’s in. You should apologize to her and your friend, and start scheduling time for just the guys where it is made clear up front that significant others are not invited.
YTA you sound really jealous
You’re a kid so I hate to say this but yeah, YTA.
First for the “She’s not a normal girl” comment because she’s interested in video games. “Normal” girls can very much be interested in video games just as much as “normal” boys are. The only reason more girls AREN’T interested in them is because boys like you tend to gatekeep them and make it seem like you need a Y chromosome to be able to enjoy them properly.
Second for thinking that you can unilaterally decide who is or isn’t part of the group….especially when the rest of the group has no issues with spending time with her or having her be included in the group activities.
Third for specifically singling her out because you were upset that a girl was beating you at video games.
As I said, you’re a kid so hopefully you will grow up and mature but right now you’re definitely in AH territory.
I’ve (fortunately) never seen someone operating a controller or keyboard with their cock, so yeah, video games are indeed not gendered.
The part about being annoyed right after she kicked your ass at gaming is super telling. Even for a 16 year old, YTA lmao.