Yes I know as silly and immature as this title seems it’s becoming to a point where I just don’t know where to draw a line in our relationship.
Growing up as identical, twin girls, my parents basically dressed us up at the same up until our elementary years. But even then she still had a sense of wanting to still do the same things together. Not saying that I despise being a twin or I hate sharing things with her. don’t get me wrong, I love her to death and would do anything for her, but at the same time, I want her to live for herself.
And now that we are both in our 20s still finding a sense of our own identities while still being twins, I’ve noticed that she tends to pick up on a lot of things that I enjoy( not saying that she can’t enjoy it also) but then again, her timing of it is somewhat throwing me off , for example, I started gauging my ears recently next thing you know, I get a call from her saying that she started gauging her ears.. ok that’s fine I don’t own the body mod. Next is even worse.. but it’s when my ED relapsed… next thing you know she’s acting like it’s a competition between us. And honestly, the list goes on.
It’s like even when we look alike it’s not enough for her but maybe that’s just me thinking harshly I don’t know I really just need some more insight on what I should do. and I’m sure you’re thinking “well she just admires you, Maybe she just looks up to you” and as sweet and kind as that might sound it seriously feels deeper than that. I’m currently in therapy and it has been a floating topic for a while. I just don’t want to hurt or destroy our relationship even more.
This is not a reddit conversation. This is a sister conversation, and you need to go have it.
Surprise!!!!!!!! I’m blocked. Next
And…that changes nothing. Reddit isnt going to fix your relationship with your sister, and its not going to give you a definitive answer to your question if **you** dont even know if shes doing it on purpose.
Other than keeping your hobbies and interests secret the main way to confront this is to have a conversation with your sister. Or alternatively stop focusing on her. Don’t engage when she picks up your interests. Say “okay cool” and move on.
Too bad OP can’t jump straight to tricking her…
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hwcqu8/aita_for_tricking_my_copycat_sister_to_cut_her/
NTA for thinking there may be an issue and having a problem with it.
This is the kind of concern you should discuss with her, but apparently she blocked you so a discussion is impossible. On the other hand if she decided to go no contact with you, the issue of her copying you might be solved unless she is stalking you through social media or some accomplices. You might want to restrict the information about your life that you make public.
Or else if you want to be the asshole, you could try posting fake pictures of your “new shaved head look” , then after a few days post that it was just a fake bald pate, and wait for the fireworks when she accuses you to everyone of how you forced her to shave her head.
Weird question but did you tell her about 100% of these things prior to her picking them up?
NTA and as an identical twin sister, I can totally relate. Your sister might think your style is cool but has no idea how annoying it is when you’re constantly compared to each other. She may also have a codependency with you. Again, still annoying. Only living separately can help this.