WIBTA if I refuse to help my SIL

WIBTA if I refuse to help my SIL

I (34f) live in a joint family with my 6 elder sister in laws. We all live in the same building but have separate living setup. I am the 7th DIL of my family. For most part I do not interact with any of them except my eldest SIL.

Throughout these years I’ve always helped her in many ways, like taking tuition for her kids for free, attending their PTMs, lending her money when they were going through difficult times and much more.

All was good until 3 months back I was blessed with a beautiful baby girl. During my pregnancy she was the only 1 who helped me in small ways nothing much like making sure the maids cooked proper food and packing my lunch. I made sure I wasn’t too dependent on anyone though but whatever help I got from her I truly appreciated it.

Now, here is where it gets messy. My SIL’s daughter (lets call her Ri) has come of age and everyone including me and my family (mother’s side) have been looking for a suitable guy for her. I’m being helpful as always.

So, recently there was a death in our family and the funeral was held in our parking lot. My daughter had just gotten out of fever and I didn’t want to take her in a public setting but it was also important for me to go down for atleast 10 15 mins. So, I asked Ri to babysit my daughter for a couple of mins while i pay a visit downstairs.

Ri took her time getting ready while I was already down. My SIL asked me who is there with my daughter and I said I asked Ri to go up to my room. My SIL got angry and said I shouldn’t have asked Ri instead I should have bought my daughter down with me. 5 mins later I see my SIL going up to my room. It’s only been 10 mins at this point that I’m down. I follow her and heard her telling Ri to go down. Now Ri has been in my room for like only 1 min coz she came late. She goes down and I asked my SIL what was the problem and she said that I shouldn’t ask her children to help. I said ok… if her children don’t want to help, I will also not be looking for any marriage proposals for her and neither will I attend any meetups which I always did.

Its been 1 and a half month now and she didn’t talk to me or come to my room until today. Tomorrow a family is coming to see Ri and she needs my help.I haven’t said anything yet, but WIBTAH if I refuse to help her ?

TLDR; SIL got angry that I asked her daughter to babysit while i attended a funeral. But SIL also wants me to help find a suitable guy for her daughter and wants me to attend a meetup tomorrow. WIBTAH if I refuse?