(fyi, I’m German and live in Germany)
I (F16) have been smoking (cigarettes) for approximately a year and a half. my parents also smoke and had been since I was a child (but they mostly tried to ‘hide’ it from me and my siblings when we were younger). when they found out that I smoke, they were angry at me, sure, but didn’t exactly stop me. at first, I wasn’t allowed to smoke in their near proximity, now they don’t really care. when it got more serious, my mother gave me her ID so that I could buy cigs at a cigarette machine (no clue if that’s the correct translation). now my father buys me them. sometimes, when I’m out of cigs, my parents roll me one (they use loose tobacoo and filters). my father hadn’t bought me cigs for a few days now (which sucks for me because I have never been on a t-break or any break), and now they get annoyed when I ask for them to roll me one.
so, I’m kinda pissed. they’ve been enabling me, ngl. they could’ve stopped me when I wasn’t addicted, they could’ve never bought me cigs in the first place.
so, am I in the wrong for blaming them for my addiction?
ps: they are aware that I get addicted to things easily, so… idk
Yes, take some accountability for your actions and don’t smoke. It’s not anyone else’s choice. Come on now, are you serious ?
ESH. They could have parented better – you should not excuse your own actions with their parenting. While it sucks that your parents smoke it sucks more that they supply you with the necessary tools to do so yourself. On the other hand saying “my parents smoke and that is the reason i smoke” is also not valid if fully thought through.
Did they jam the lit cigarettes in your mouth, plug your nose & force you to breathe through the cigarette & inhale the smoke? No? Take responsibility for your own damn decision!
YTA
Edit: ESH, come on, don’t smoke and blame someone else.
My parents smoked too, doesn’t mean I have to do it too.
Poster after me is right.
You’re responsible for your own actions. Blaming your parents isn’t going to change or help anything.
ESH. You’ve got crappy parents who enabled you, but you’re also nearly an adult and are going to have to start taking responsibility for yourself.
YTA. Talk to a trusted adult or a doctor, get some help, quit smoking.
ESH. Sure it doesn’t help when your parents support it but ask yourself one question. Would you stop, if they told you to stop? (You would still get addicted if you did it behind their backs)
YTA. If you recognize that they enable. You are admitting that you are making a choice. You’re not 7. They aren’t saying you have to smoke. I get you being some type of a way to them. My mother did the same thing. BUT if they smacked ya in the back
Of the head and said stop smoking you would complain that your parents smacked ya in the back of the head for smoking. Take ownership of
Your own choices.
ESH. Everyone is accountable for their actions
YTA Your parents didn’t force you to start smoking and it’s not their responsibility to supply you with them either. Get a job if you want them so bad.
YTA. They’re certainly not doing you any favors by continuing to enable you but ultimately you are responsible for your own actions and not anyone else. They did not hand you your first cigarette and they did not force you to continue smoking. Those were choices you made on your own. You got yourself addicted to cigarettes.