About two weeks ago, my (37M) wife (37F) started snoring out of the blue. Its not really Loud but it wakes me up. And I can’t go back to sleep if it wakes me up in the middle of the night. I wasn’t going to ask her to sleeo somewhere else so I just went to another room the night she started.
I guess some time during the night she woke up to use the bathroom or something, and she went to the guest room and slept in the bed I was sleeping in since i wasnt in our room. Where she began to snore again.
I told her that she was starting to snore, and she just shrugged it off. She only booked just booked an appointment a few days back. Ive continued to sleep in the guesy room, and Ive started to lock the door since my wife keeps coming in whenever she notices I’m not in the bed even though I’ve told her why repeatedly.
She thinks I’m being over dramatic and that I’m making her feel denied or something.
AITA?
NTA. She’s being selfish and doesn’t seem to care that she’s disturbing you.
Sleep is medically necessary. Nta. She needs to respect this boundary or go to a Dr to see if the snoring can be treated.
NTA.
But you might want to record her snoring and play it back for her sometime to see if that helps her see your point.
Maybe while she’s trying to sleep
NTA, but as someone married to someone who snores, I suggest a pair of Loop earplugs. They are comfortable, work well, and I can still hear my alarm in the morning.
Your wife is being very disrespectful. Not for the snoring, but for not prioritizing your sleep over her wanting to sleep next to you. Also, a sleep divorce works well for many couples.
NTA. As the wife of a snorer, we tried for years to sleep together, neither of us getting a good sleep. Finally gave in. I started moving to another room when he started snoring. Then I started moving to the other room as soon as he fell asleep, and now we kiss good night when he’s ready to go to sleep and I go sleep in the other room. We actually built a house with a sound proof wall between us because it’s that bad.
We both sleep well now with no interruptions and we are happier. I would be furious if he kept waking me up like your wife is now. It’s just silly. You both need a good sleep!
That’s a good solution! Though, if your husband’s snoring is so bad you need a soundproof wall between yall, I hope he sees a doctor about sleep apnea. That level of snoring is wild and definitely affecting sleep quality.
NTA. But your wife is being one. Refusing to allow you to sleep and completely ignoring you to the point you have to *lock her out* is wild. She isn’t being rational.
NTA, you’ve set a boundary and she keeps violating it and making you the bad guy. You have the right to sleep alone, especially if there is an issue, like snoring, that keeps you from getting a good night’s sleep.
NTA
My husband’s snoring is so loud is shakes the house. If I didn’t sleep in another room with the fan blasting next to my head to block his noise we would be divorced by now.
Sleep deprivation is torture, and the snorer is the one who falls asleep first, gets angry when woken up, says they can’t help it, then complains they’re tired 😂😂😂
I love my husband, I love our separate bedrooms too.
If your husband is waking up tired, he should get a sleep study done to see if he has sleep apnea.
NTA. Sleep is a need, cuddles are a want.
It’s so hilarious to me that because she’s offended everyone’s is jumping to some ‘alternative’ like ear plugs just because she wants to lay next to you.
Every single time there is a snoring post people always suggest “do you guys have a guest bedroom” “separate bedrooms” “why aren’t separate bedrooms normalized” meanwhile now people are trying to find some way to make the guy the bad guy for doing what reddit usually says. It’s comical actually. Im sure i’ll be downvoted for saying this but the flips never fail to amaze me.
Oh my god my ex husband did this. He was a horrible snorer. In an effort at peace, and so I could function during the day, I would just quietly get up and go elsewhere to sleep. He would wake up and try to get me to come back to bed, or want to sleep wherever I was. Just ridiculous.
NTA. I am a very light sleeper, and even with ear plugs, snoring wakes me up. Sleep is a basic biological need, and no one should be expected to sacrifice a biological need to avoid hurting someone else’s feelings.
OP’s wife is being selfish and rather childish.
The people saying OP should just suck it up for however many days or weeks it takes to address her medical problem are obviously not light sleepers.
OP deserves a good night’s sleep.
It’s weird you guys can’t just talk out loud about this.
Hey chicky I love you but can’t sleep with the snoring. Hey dude I miss you.
Ok – nose strips for you, ear buds for me, white noise machine. If that combination doesn’t work, you go to the Dr.
Ok.