Ok so for the last couple of months i have been making my grandma’s lunch instead of my brother, D. This hasn’t been an issue at all until rather recently. Since we are getting into holiday season at my work, we are getting extremely busy and needing extra hands at work. So I had been asked to take a Wednesday morning shift and an all day Thursday shift to help with deli and help with cashiers. I told D this a week before it’s going to happen to give him a heads up. He got extremely mad at me and told me that I’m irresponsible and reckless for not being able to grandma’s lunch for him when it’s his job to do. So Reddit AITA? Edit 1: My grandma has dementia and is unable to eat unless someone helps her and her lunch is already made for her.
Obviously you’re NTA and your brother needs to grow up. JFC.
NTA- you both need to GTFU and stop letting people walk all over you
Who is walking all over the brother? Granny has dementia and needs help, brother gets paid to provide it, but dumps that responsibility on OP.
NTA, but….
If you aren’t sure, you probably are.
ESH. “it’s his job to do”: is it? You don’t explain that. You just say you told him you’d be busy. (“I told D this a week before it’s going to happen to give him a heads up.”) Does that make it his job? I don’t even know why it’s your job. Grandma can’t make her own lunch? You need to read your post again from the point of view of someone who doesn’t know your life.
You work in a deli. Could you make Gram a sandwich there for the following day? Would your boss allow you to have one sandwich?
Modern life has become very stressful, and you & your fam have fallen prey to stress. Try to figure out a way around this problem. If boss wants cash for the sandwich, split the cost of a small s’wich with bro.
Neither one of you is an AH. Surely there’s a decent way out of this pickle that won’t wreck your relationships. Good luck!
My grandma’s lunch is all prepped for her. She has dementia and cant feed herself so she needs someone with her to make she she eats her food
If you had written this information in your original post so that readers have a better idea of your situation, then you might have been given some useful advice.
NTA. Is your brother paid for making lunch for grandma? Because if so, he’s an asshole. Even so, you warned him a week in advance to prepare something. It’s a sucky situation overall
He gets paid $60 a week to take care of grandma’s lunch. He has the ability to use his paid lunch to be able to do it. I don’t have a lunch break otherwise i would do it
Tell him if he transfers the payment to you you’ll do the lunches for grandma, if he wont share the payment you’re done sharing the job. Get it all in text so you have a record of who is doing the task and who is being paid to do the task.
NTA – your brother gets paid to feed her as she has dementia, and the lunch is already made. You should edit your post so people understand the full situation.