I let my boyfriend drive my car Wednesday and he calls me to tell me that he had spilled something in my seats. At first it didn’t bother me but when I got in the car to clean the rest of what he spilled I noticed that he didn’t try at all! It was hard for me to get out, it was making my car have a certain smell and I had to go to work. So when he called me later on that day I told him ( not in a mean way ) that he would have to clean my car out because I couldn’t get the smell out of my seats. HE WAS PISSED! He told me I wasn’t his mother and that if he were to cuss me out ( simply because I had asked him to clean out my car ) then he would be in the wrong. 3 days have passed and he’s been dry with me and is making it seem like he’s giving me the cold shoulder. Am I in the wrong ?
NTA. Excuse me. He spills something in your car and he expects you to clean up after him like his mom. This is your future with this man/child. He makes a mess and you clean up after him. If you speak out he reacts with anger. I wouldn’t pick him for the long term but maybe that’s just me.
Don’t forget he follows up with “you’re not my mom” and sulking
Wow, he’s still something in your car and he should have completely cleaned it before returning it to you. It definitely says something about his character that he didn’t do that, or lack of character. But he’s pissed at you because you demand he cleaned the mess he made? He needs to be your ex this is not somebody you want to stay in a relationship with.
NTA. Your boy is inconsiderate, and acting like child. What kind of person wouldn’t even try to clean a mess like that in a car that they borrowed?
I’m not sure why he made that comment about you not being his mother. He certainly expected you to clean up his mess like you’re his mommy. I think I’d be starting to sour on him after this situation
Get the car professionally cleaned and give him the bill. Ask the cleaner what was spilled. Get the locks changed while you’re at it.
NTA.
Next time he asks to use your car, tell him, ‘I’m not your mother, find someone else’. NTA.
NTA
“You’re right. I’m not your mom. That’s why I expect you to clean up your messes instead of leaving them for me to deal with.”
NTA. His thank you for borrowing your car is to leave it dirty and smelly and get mad you asked him to fix the situation? No apology or rectifying the situation and then sulk for 3 days?
Don’t lend him your car again obviously and I would toss him to the curb.
NTA. If he can’t clean up his own messes, maybe it’s time to throw him out with the trash.
Why are you referring to him as your boyfriend. If any guy I was seeing back in the day and treated me like this, they would be my ex boyfriend. He messed up your car, and got upset when he was told about it.
I wouldn’t have a boyfriend. You borrowed my possession and then made a mess in it that now smells foul because it’s rotting, then you are responsible to clean it. That statement applies, you aren’t his mother and therefore you aren’t cleaning his messes up. NTA but you should breakup with the asshole lol
NTA
If this is his attitude and reaction over making a mess in your car, then I can’t imagine how selfish and entitled he is with everything else in life.
You need to park your asshole boyfriend at the curb and bring your car inside where it can be nice and clean and cared for.
NTA. Put the whole boyfriend in the bin at this point