For context, I’m super pregnant right now. My husband (29M) and I (26F) have another child who is almost 3. I didn’t have a positive breastfeeding experience with her, I’m determined to have a better experience with our 2nd. His brother, my bil (30M) is a chronic yo-yo dieter. I personally think it’s annoying because he tries to get everyone else around him to try it. I’ve always politely said no thanks. My husband has told him several times to stop bringing it up to me, but he’s sneaky, and will ask when my husband is not in the room. I’ve just brushed it off as he’s insecure.
There was one day when he and their sister (34F) were at our house and my husband had to use the bathroom. Bil asked me if I had done any research on how to loose weight when I have the baby. I had to take a deep breath so I didn’t snap. I told him I had no plans for that. Then he proceeds to tell me about some kind of diet that requires cutting out all kinds of foods and apparently the baby weight will just fall right off. I told him no thank you, I’m not worried about my weight and neither are my doctors or my husband. Then he pressed even further, all while my husband is taking a shit. He asked me if I had any diets in mind and he would like to research them for me to see if they were good for me. I laughed and said that I would be on the see food diet. I’ll see food and I’ll eat it, because with breastfeeding, you burn lots of calories, so I’ll probably be hungry all the time. He was visibly uncomfortable, but my sil was giggling. After my poor husband came out, bil suddenly decided he needed to take his dog for a walk. My husband asked if anything happened and I told him. He thought it was funny too and he was going to talk to his brother. I know I’m not the asshole, but part of me feels bad for the guy. If he’s this insecure, could I be the asshole by being as sarcastic as I was?
Do some research on mental health and eating disorders. When you BIL brings up his “research” on your diet bring up YOUR research on his mental health problems and recommendations to find the right therapist.
Yeah. Like I won’t engage in armchair diagnosis, but the controlling diet under the guise of “health”, especially spreading to others, is a hallmark of orthorexia
HE was uncomfortable? I think he was an insufferable jerk!
Glad you could handle it like that, I might have gone off on someone were I in a similar situation. Am a dude btw, and I think women are by far a lot better/stronger than men.
Asking a pregnant woman about weight loss is wild. You kept it light and he dipped. You’re not the asshole in any universe.