Hi yall, I’m in the hospital for the first time and this is the second night I’ve been here and I havent slept at all since. Anyways, I made a bad mistake that I fell really shitty about. I’m in a hospital room with 2 beds and 3 lights, I’m at the far end. Theirs a light above each of the 2 beds and the 3rd light is by the entrance of the room. Between somewhere around like 9 and 12:30 pm all the lights were off, which was nice. around 1am I requested a nurse for pain medicine so I can sleep. The 3rd light came on and stayed on which I thought it was from me and they forgot to turn the light off. Around 2:45am a nurse came in and I asked if the light could be turned off, but little did I know they were helping out the dude next to me. (had headphones on, and his bed light was still off) Anyways the dude next to me got super livid saying I was selfish, telling me to go f myself shitty person, he went on like this for several minutes. I feel horrible cause he’s right that did seem selfish asf, and I profusely apologized but he still kept going. So I’m the asshole but how bad.
Sorry if the writing is bad I havent slept in like 2 days.
There’s curtains between our beds.
Also want to mention he said i ought to come over there and stick you(not verbatim, he might have said youre lucky i dont stick you). Its been an hour atp, And he’s still rambling about how disrespectful it is and how in prison it would be different. I’m not sleeping tonight, I’m low key worried.
Update lights are off and he’s quite now.
You’re NTA – it was a perfectly reasonable question even if the answer would have been ‘no’, and there’s no excuse for the way the other guy overreacted.
NTA, honest mistake. Person next to you is probably just cranky because he is in pain and sensitive.
NTA it was an honest mistake and you do feel bad about it and apologized. What else can you do? Are things calm/ok now? If you feel unsafe please discretely ask to change rooms if possible
NTA
Everyone is tired and confused. It’s the nurse’s job to mediate the lighting situation. There’s nothing wrong with you asking.
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NTA. You didn’t know, you thought the light being on was the result of your call, and likely thought it might be bothering the other patients. You did the right thing by attempting to apologize and explain. If you’re still feeling bad about it, maybe try again to explain after you and the other gentleman have both had some sleep and are likely to be in a slightly better place emotionally. Pain, sickness, and the stress of being in a hospital are the perfect combination for anger and misunderstandings. If nothing else, you might have to just be satisfied with knowing that your intentions were not selfish or malicious, even if the other patient never accepts it.
You asked if a light could be turned off, you didn’t charge out of your bed with your middle finger up to flick the switch while this man was pleading with you not to do so. Were they performing open heart surgery on him at that particular moment? Because if not then NTA
NTA. Ideally the Nurse should have checked with the other patient.
Nta – you wanted to sleep. You are entitled to sleep. Why couldn’t he use his bed light?
Please report his threats to the nurses and request one of you be moved
Explain what happened to a nurse and ask to be moved to a different room. You did nothing wrong. Your roommate is being unreasonable. You’re in the hospital to recover and you need all the sleep you can get, not stay up worried. Hopefully there is an open room they can move you to. If not, ask what they will do to keep you safe since your roommate threatened you.
You’re not the bad guy here. You made a normal mistake while in pain and exhausted. His reaction was way out of pocket. Going off for an hour and making weird prison threats is not normal behavior. Tell the nurses what he said and ask if you can be moved or have someone check in. You’re sick, tired, and just trying to sleep. not starting beef in a hospital room.
NTA. Dude’s got his own problems, and you didn’t do anything horrible. And ask for an eye mask? Some hospitals have them, since those rooms are never dark.
NTA
It was an honest mistake. Tell him that. If he keeps going on about it speak to the nurses and get them to tell him to stfu about it and stop being such a big baby.
I’d be saying something to the staff, you have a right to feel safe. Some years ago 1 of the patients had a high fever, he got out of bed and stood beside a sleeping female patient bed and urinated. I actually left the hospital, went back for my stuff and they offered me a private room.
It’s not easy being in hospital, please don’t beat yourself up. Talk to the staff.