A few months ago, my friend asked to borrow some money because they were going through a “tight situation.” It wasn’t a huge amount, but it was definitely a lot for me. They told me they would return it within a week.
That week passed… then weeks… then months. They never brought it up unless I reminded them. Every time I asked, they said, “I’ll send it soon,” but nothing actually happened.
What really bothers me is that during all this time, they’ve been going out, ordering food, buying things, and even taking small trips. So clearly money isn’t that tight anymore.
Last week, I told them I really needed it back. Instead of understanding, they got annoyed and said I was “pressuring” them and being “cheap.”
And honestly, at this point I’ve started feeling like a beggar asking for my own money. It’s embarrassing even though it shouldn’t be.
A mutual friend told me I should “let it go” to avoid drama, but that just made me more confused.
I don’t want to damage the friendship, but I also don’t think it’s fair that I’m made to feel guilty for asking for something that was mine in the first place.
Did I cross a line by asking again, or is my friend taking advantage of me?
NTA. Your friendship’ is already damaged by them. They have used you in a very selfish and uncaring way. You are not a beggar for demanding back what is yours. Don’t be embarrassed, be disappointed or even annoyed.