I work for a large retail organization that recently hosted an exclusive open house as part of our Black Friday/Cyber Monday promotion, where guests could purchase discounted items. I shared the invitation broadly and told people to come if they were interested. One of my friends confronted me/ was upset that I didn’t remind her closer to the date and accuses me of not actually wanting her there. I was one of the event organizers and the day was extremely busy. I genuinely think she’s more upset about missing out on the deals (she really wanted some Dyson items) so I even offered her my employee discount afterward, but she wasn’t receptive.
NTA. She’s disappointed she missed out and is lashing out. Grown ups are expected to run their own calendars.
NTA but you know that, not sure how it could be your fault
Tried to justify it by saying when we have plans there’s usually some sort of follow up post confirmation.. but honestly. You’re right, now reading it out loud, it’s very clear I did nothing wrong
I mean if you didn’t send a follow up “confirmation” where was her message to ask if it was still going ahead? She just doesn’t have her shit together and wants to blame someone else
NTA
Adults (especially in a non-family business atmosphere) are responsible for basics like getting something to eat, washing up on a regular basis, brushing teeth AND knowing their own schedule. Again, unless you are her private secretary, she has ONLY herself to blame. You gave her notice, she forgot. NTA, but she sure is.
NTA. They’re just trying to blame you for what is clearly their mistake.
LOL, how embarrassing to behave like that.
You gave them the courtesy of a heads up, that was very kind.
She is not a good friend.
So she needed reminding about a Black Friday open house which is scheduled around a holiday that occurs on a Thursday? I forget dates too but have calendar reminders but several alerts
NTA – they need to grow up
NTA.
Her calendar, her responsibility to manage it. If she didn’t put it in her schedule when you first sent out the message, which was a total courtesy to your friends/family, that’s on her.
You have Nothing to feel Bad About.
Wow! Were you supposed to arrive at her house early, slowly and gently wake her up, get her into the shower and prepare a breakfast for her then chauffeur her to the event While Actually Working The Event?!!
WHAT am I reading?!
No, of course you’re NTA!
Who does she think she is???
NTA
Someone needs to sit with their disappointment until they can digest that they are responsible for their own scheduling. Just wow. It’s called responsibility, and it’s personal, you don’t blame others for your own forgetfulness.
NTA. Calendar apps with reminders exist.
Nta. THEY ARE GROWN!