For context, she was a cheater and per annulment papers, she was lonely and left her 2 toddlers for a man. I lived with my dad’s parents from 7yo but stuff happened and I’m living with her for 1.5years (im 25). I really owe her nothing and provide the bare minimum (like wifi and few groceries) bc im still angry withhow the cheating affected me growing up but still lent her money.
Last May, my mom borrowed 30,000₱(500$) to pay for my half-brother’s tuition fee. Ive no savings and only been a week to the new job which earns me net of 75,000₱(1250$) so I gave her the money which she said to pay on November bc she will have her 13th month pay. I’m asking her to pay up now but she said she’ll pay me on March.
Also 3 weeks ago around early November, I was in the middle of vacation and she asked for another 25,000₱(420$) and told me shed pay it after Feb because the house payment is due.
Now shes asking me to pay for our accommodation to celebrate christmas and im just so disappointed because why do we have to splurge on vacation if we’ll still worry about money after.
I know I sound selfish because I don’t want to spend money on holidays for me, her, my brother and half brother plus her boyfriend. im just so tired of this acting like we have money but cant we just please live within our means?
Then my other brother wants to borrow money bc he wants to pay his cc dues one time then just pay me in portion bc he doesn’t want to be bothered paying on different dates. The other one was alr with interest and the other one was for a recent gadget purchase. He is still a student which im paying the tuition for because like I mentioned, things happened with my dad we were kicked out so im paying for his college.
I really hate my family at times like these because everyone is so immature and sucks at handling money and thinks i dont work hard for my salary that i can just give it to them. theyre also acting like victims/asking for pity because they know ill give in at some point.
Im juat angry at everything bc I have a lot of plans for myself like upskilling, investments, increasing my EF, traveling abroad and migrating hopefully. Sometimes I just want to move out again and cut them off completely.