AITA for trying to tell others that my brother is a piece of shit sometimes?
For context me and my brother are twins, and he’s always been the more outgoing popular type while I have been the more reclusive type. Now that doesn’t mean I don’t have friends or the sort but I’m just not as outgoing
Recently around friends or family he’s been telling stories about me. Now I get I am a bit awkward in public sometimes, that much is true but not to the extent to which he makes it. He spins stories in a way that really paints me as an idiot, points at me and laughs at me to I guess impress other people or lift himself up in some twisted way. He tells these like a storyteller, pointing and painting images like in a charismatic kind of way so I just look like an idiot.
In our growth spurts too, he’s taller by like half an inch but recently he’s made that all about his personality and for some reason my business too. Around friends or girls he just starts patting my head how I’m just so short and cute and we’ll everyone laughs cause what else the fuck are they supposed to do? And well I try to downplay it like I’m the better looking twin, or play it off sarcastically but it does hurt. The people staring I don’t really care about but the fact that he makes fun of me and only in public hurts me. I did try to talk to him but he was talking in like the scammer like speech how he’s glad that I talked to him about it and brings up something I did to him 2 months ago (it was not giving him my eraser when he asked for it in class because I needed it???). But then he went back to the same thing
When I tell people about this they laugh how I’m being too extreme and it’s just a joke. I’m very close with him like I’d die for him and I’m truly convinced that something might be wrong with me. Am I the asshole?
No, NTA.
NTA there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. You’ve done what you can with explaining how what he says hurts you. Your brother insecure and an ass to you. He’s insecure about himself so he’s taking it out on you and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Do you have a trusted adult you can speak to about it? Otherwise just focus on yourself and know that you are your own person with your own worth.
Thanks but the’trusted adults’ just thought it’s a joke between brothers, I guess I’ll try to ignore it and just not give him the reaction he wants
I’m sorry you don’t have a trusted adult to go to yet. Keep being open to finding one but let them show you they are trustworthy over time. Also I don’t know if ignoring it will work. I liked the comebacks others posted like calling him a “giant” asshole when he is calling you short or asking him if he’s okay and acting concerned. Calling it out is better than ignoring it. Don’t feed into it tho. Try practicing it or visualizing how it would go so you can in the moment. Also keep focusing on your health and wellbeing academics hobbies and other friends to fine more areas of positivity. You got this
NTA. Next time he mentions being taller, just point out that that’s because he’s a giant asshole.
NTA. When he’s doing it in front of other people, I’d have to follow up with “are you okay? It’s not like you to put other people down, is something making you feel insecure?”.
NTA but he is.
NTA. But you should set boundaries because this can only escalates. If YOU are uncomfortable that all that matters and you shouldn’t downplay your feelings
NTA.
And if you can brush it off with a shrug and “Oh, he’s just insecure” that might shut him up.
NTA.
Your brother isn’t “joking.” He’s bullying you for an audience. And because he’s charismatic, people laugh instead of calling him out, that doesn’t make it okay. It just makes it harder for you to be taken seriously.
So, your brother is 17 going on 12…
NTA – every time he does something like this in public, look at him and say something like, “You know, only insecure people do this kind of stuff to other people…what about me is making you insecure?”
NTA. Just meet him at his level and josh him up in front of others in a playful way nbd
“Don’t mind him; being a little taller is his whole personality now.”
NTA. Sorry your brother’s being an A H.
When he pats you on your head for being shorter in front of people, just say “my extra inch went somewhere else” and wink slyly. Let them draw their own conclusions. This is what I would do.
NTA. Your brother is going through an obnoxious phase.