So, am I the asshole if I sold a concert ticket that my toxic ex paid for and I should give him the money back for it?
I mean, he neglected me during the relationship and made me feel worthless. We were supposed to go to the concert he gave me for our anniversary (a band I don’t even like), and I was excited because we never did anything else together, but then he took it back because we had a fight.
During the relationship, I definitely spent over €130 just to be able to travel to see him (it was a long-distance relationship), and that was with my allowance, and I sold the ticket for €60.
I’m not planning on giving him the money because I wanted to treat myself to something nice. His behavior during the relationship made me depressed, and I could never afford clothes or anything like that because my allowance was completely spent on traveling.
plus It’s not even his money because he’s an adult, but he’s still financially supported by his parents, and he’s often complained that he doesn’t want to spend "his" money on me, for example, when I asked him for a bag of Haribo while shopping.
So, am I the asshole if I want to buy myself something nice, even a bit more expensive, with the money from the ticket he sold?
EDIT: he bought a ticket once gifted it to me took it back went with his mom and after that he bought another ticket for the same band and then said I have to pay him back because I’m the asshole and he doesn’t want to spend more money on me if I keep behaving like an asshole sorry forgot to mention 🙏🏼🙏🏼
(Sorry if there are any misspellings; I have kind of dyslexia. 🙏🏼)
You’re not clear on the circumstances around the purchasing of the ticket.
The ticket was an anniversary gift. It’s yours. Keep the money and block your ex.
Similar energy to “The date didnt go well, venmo me $7 for the coffee”
I will say, sounds like you’re doing it moreso out of retribution than anything, which isn’t the best motivation in this world even if he deserved it. That being said, if he gifted that ticket to you, that ticket was your property. One does not get to regain gifted items as if it was an object accidentally left at your place. Cut him out, treat yourself, learn from what went wrong, and move on. NTA. Good luck.
Move on. The energy spent for the amount of money is not worth it. Protect your peace and look forward.
If it wasn’t a gift and your agreement was to pay him for the ticket then YTA.
It was a gift. Keep the money
Okay, so he gave you the ticket as a gift, but then took it back, but then you sold it, but also he sold it?
You’re only the AH for sticking with this guy for as long as you did and keeping in touch with him. Sell the ticket, pocket the money, and block the fool.
I read it as.
He bought her the ticket as a gift
Took it back and attended with someone else
He bought a replacement ticket but expected to be paid back
I would just ignore him
NTA
From what you said it sounds like he originally gave you a ticket for your anniversary but then stole it from you. He then later replaced that one with another but wanted you to pay him for that one. Since it was to replace the one that was a gift and he stole it from you, you shouldn’t give him money for the ticket you sold.
NTA for selling it but grow the f*^k up and take responsibility for your actions. I don’t know how old you are, but if you’re older than 16, you are wildly immature