AITAH for giving my girlfriend a book she thinks is ‘devil’s work’ as a Christmas gift?

I (m, 24) have been with my girlfriend (f, 26) for a little over a year now. From the beginning we were pretty different in our lifestyles. I don’t drink or smoke at all, and I’ve always been the type to stay home, read, watch documentaries, and try to improve myself. She’s a lot more social than I am. She likes going out with her friends, meeting new people, and she’s very involved in her church. I don’t judge her for any of that, but she sometimes says she’s a “better person” because she goes to church while I don’t, which has caused a lot of tension between us.

For context, she thinks the books I read are “witchcraft.” Even when the book is just about psychology or personal growth, she’ll say her pastor told her things like hypnotherapy, meditation, or subconscious mind practices are “the devil’s work.” I’ve tried explaining that none of the books I read say anything against religion at all. The one that started this whole situation was a book about how to apply the principles of hypnotherapy to everyday life. It didn’t mention religion even once, but she got so upset over it that she refused to let the topic go for days. She didn’t tell me to stop reading it outright, but she made passive aggressive comments every single time she saw it. Things like “I can’t believe you’re inviting demons into our home” or “No wonder you’re drifting away from God.”

I kept trying to talk to her calmly and explain that I wasn’t doing anything harmful or disrespectful, but anytime religion got involved she completely shut down the conversation. She also told her sister about it, and then her sister texted me saying I was “bringing spiritual danger” into their family. It honestly made me feel ganged up on and misunderstood for something that isn’t even controversial outside of her church circle.

After weeks of this, I got fed up. I felt hurt that she kept making these mean comments and questioning my character over a book she hadn’t even opened. So I did something I now realize might not have been the most mature reaction. I took that same book, wrapped it in Christmas gift paper, and gave it to her early as a gift. I didn’t do it to mock her, at least that wasn’t my intention. In my mind, it was like “if you’re judging it so harshly, maybe you should actually read what you’re attacking.” I thought it might finally start a real conversation or at least make her see that it wasn’t some evil thing.

She did not take it that way. She got extremely upset and said I was disrespecting her religion, her beliefs, and her pastor. She told me I embarrassed her by “weaponizing” something she had a moral issue with. She left and went to her friend’s house, and now she’s barely talking to me except to tell me how hurt she is. Her sister also texted me again saying I should apologize immediately before “things get worse.”

I honestly feel torn. Part of me thinks I was completely justified because I wanted her to judge the book based on what’s actually in it, not based on rumors or fear. But another part of me thinks maybe it was petty to give it as a gift when I knew she’d react strongly.

My family says she’s being controlling and trying to shame me into following her beliefs. Her family says I’m undermining her faith. I’m stuck in the middle feeling confused and overwhelmed because she made me feel bad for something so small, and I just reacted out of frustration.