Edit: It’s not an actual crisis I am just being dramatic.
So… I’ve got an extra medium crush on a pharmacy tech I see every now and then, and I genuinely have no idea what to do about it. I briefly considered asking in a local Facebook group if anyone knows who he is, but realistically… what would I even do with that info? Plus, that feels low-key creepy, and I’m really trying to stay firmly in the “normal” zone.
Approaching him while he’s working is inappropriate. I’ve never spoken to him, never seen his name badge. I don’t know how old he is or if he’s married/girlfriend. Yes, I know. I’m a bit of a mess. The other day, I went in hoping he’d be there just to casually take in the view. Of course, as I was walking in, he was walking out. We literally passed each other, locked eyes for half a second, and kept moving. The timing was… odd.
So what are some not weird, definitely not creepy ways to navigate something like this? I have no real insight into how a man might react. If I saw him in a bookstore I might approach with a cheesy joke, but these logistics are absurd. How does something like this land from a man’s perspective and have any women here ever dealt with a similar situation?
Bring two boxes of condoms up to him and start asking him more and more intimate questions about them.
Then ask him if he’d like to help you sample them so you can decide which works better for you.
Ask him for his gamer tag
Literally nothing wrong tossing a line out to gauge his interest even if he is working.
None of this is a crisis if you dont hold weird wet blanket sensibilities. Normal people don’t hold these melodramatic reddit hangups.
I don’t know of too many creepy ways a woman could approach me. But seriously why not just give him your “number “ or whatever the equivalent of that is?
When you passed one another you could have said “oh hi! Aren’t you the pharmacy tech?” Extend your hand to shake hands and say “I don’t believe we’ve met, my name is …”.
He’ll introduce himself. If he doesn’t take the hint, you could proceed with “I often have coffee at the Starbucks next door, in fact I’ll be there this evening around 7, you should come join me.”
Ask your doctor for a sexy prescription…. Idk…
Don’t consider it a crisis, for one.
Say “Hello” or “Hi” next time you see him! That simple! Have to start somewhere!
He has the sort of job where he has to be uber professional, I can’t imagine he’ll engage in flirting on the job, so your options are pretty limited.
Mild stalking to bump into him out of work. Subtle note over the counter. Less subtle request for his medical opinion in a private area. Or just move on with your life.
. Don’t just walk up to him and cold ask him out. You need to find a way to start a conversation with him. Then maybe the next time or the time after that ~ ask him out.
“Hey, I’m Historical_end, what’s your name”
I had a crush on a girl once. I talked to her and we’ve been married for 33 years.
Slide the guy your number and if he calls you great, if he doesn’t you at least know there’s nothing there.