It was my birthday recently and I threw a party. My husband comes from a small family and I come from a very big family. There are currently 17 kids under 18yo in my extended family while in his family there is only his nephew and his cousin’s son. Both boys are polite and adorable.
Anyway, I decided not to invite the kids of my family to the party. Obviously we couldn’t say the party was childfree because our own kids, his nephew and cousin’s son were invited however these kids are polite and quiet (except for our daughter who is a menace but she is our daughter so we have to tolerate it /jk, she is my life) and none of these kids is picky eater which meant I wouldn’t have to provide a separate meal for them.
Now my family think I was an asshole for excluding all their kids while the party wasn’t even childfree.