Suddenly after his last text he left mine on read then today decided not to open the last one and i know he’s online.
My last message was asking if hes ok and what’s going on…
I seriously don’t get why someone would do this. It is unbelievably hurtful.
Not to mention i was recently ghosted too. I can’t handle this anymore.
What am i supposed to do? Should i reach out again what is this, i really care for our friendship no matter what happens…
This ghosting shit without communication is really hurtful
Hang on. Did you actually meet in person?
He probably went back to his ex or found someone else. If you weren’t exclusive it’s super common nowadays sadly.
So what is so hard about communicating that instead of dissappearing especially after a text that showed interest the same day
Nothing, aside from it’s the norm lol. Everyone is so anti conflict that it’s easier to just ghost. We live in a goofy time, sigh.
Actually sending a text to communicate that closes the door to continuing the relationship. Not doing so lets them make up an excuse after the fact of things didn’t work out.
Basically it’s more convenient for them to leave it open.
You should read a book on attachment styles. If you’re having a hard time over texting you have an anxious attachment style. If he’s ghosting he may be avoidant. There’s a specific dynamic between these two that’s very hard to manage.
It’s not hard, he’s just an asshole. I’ve found the best way mentally to deal with this is that you wouldn’t have wanted to end up with someone who does this long term.
Welcome to modern dating
Suddenly interest waned or he found someone else he’s more interested in. Women do this, too.
Imho, ghosting and ‘leaving on read’ is really immature – and some ppl might knock me for this – I really don’t care though – but, to me, that’s a feminine trait. Guys are acting more like girls and girls are acting more like guys all the time. It’s really bad. Guys should have balls and leave a short text that they moved on – don’t care how they say it – women won’t do that – so, guys should have enough balls – so, if he is ghosting or not replying, it means he’s not interested in communicating anymore. He could be busy but if it’s been 2 mths and (edit:) SUDDENLY, he hasn’t kept or maintained communication, he’s ‘moved on’ or found someone else he’s more interested in.
If anyone tells you different, I’d be really surprised. If a girl is showing interest and the guy likes the girl, he won’t suddenly disappear. Even if he doesn’t reply in a timely manner, he won’t ‘disappear.’
What you should do?: Meet other guys? It’s easier for women – especially, the better looking, the woman is – no need to concentrate on one guy when it’s easier – and if this guy doesn’t reply – then he’s not interested. You could leave one last msg if you really want – ‘wondered what happened, where did you go?’ – Then, don’t ever reply again unless he does.
If he doesnt respond, then there is no way to know what’s going on, sadly.
One can only speculate.
The main reason I’ve decided to stop talking to some one I was interested in was that I found some one else i am more interested in.
Expressed interest in what? A friendship, a relationship? If friendship, what do you care? He will respond whenever he feels like it. A relationship? If you didn’t reciprocate, he likely stopped trying.
Maybe he was kidnapped?
Odds are good that you said something causing him to realized you were catching feelings and didn’t know how to pump the brakes so he just went no contact. I’m not saying it’s a good way to handle it, I’m saying it’s most likely.