I dont know if this is the right place to post this but im looking for advice since i cant tell if i should or shouldnt take this shot.
I 20m am interested in a woman who is in her 30’s who is both a classmate and in the same philosophy club as me. I have expressed this interest to a few friends and have gotten a mixed bag of "no you have no shot.", "yeah man you got a shot!" and "IDK i dont think its a good idea". its making me anxious and i cant tell if i should or shouldnt.
For additional details ill add this stuff.
* I want to ask her to lunch as a way to see if we have overlapping interests or not.
* an actual relationship isnt on the table yet until i get a feel for her and her desires.
* I don’t know her real age just that she is in her 30’s
* she has a son who is 10
* She works nights.
* she is not in a relationship.
can i get your opinion? I dont want to waste her time or mine. if you need more then ill try my best to answer. thankyou for your time and effort, hope you all have a good day.
Worst she can say is no
This tbh
Dude. Her kid is closer to your age than she is!!!
Generally, if you’re not brave enough to ask someone out, you’re not old enough to date them. But, damn – when you and her kid can share tips on Play Station? She’s too old for you.
Dude she is a single mom in her 30’s you are 20, you two are no where near at the same places in your lives….I wouldn’t bank on ANY kind of long term relationship ever working out even if she was interested.
That said you could just ask her out to lunch but I wouldn’t hold your breath unless she is interested in a fwb type thing.
The class and club comes first bro. Not just for you but for her as well. You’re there for those activities first and foremost. It would be a really ungentlemanly thing to do to make a class or club weird or awkward for anyone if it’s not absolutely necessary or very obvious that’s the vibe.
Have you had any sign she’s interested? If not then I would wait until the last day of class and then ask her to lunch. Gives her the opportunity to say yes or no and then not have to see you again if she doesn’t want to. In that scenario I say go for it. The worst she can say is no. Age is really just a number.
As to whether you have a shot? You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. Honestly I think the odds are against you for anything serious but you just never know.
I tend to follow this rule – If she likes you, you’ll know and if she doesn’t, you won’t. Good luck bro hope it works out for ya!