I’ll start out by saying this , yes I am an insecure guy , I’ve had relations with cheating and flirting with other men and all types of situations that lead into trust issues. Me and my gf have been together for around six months now and before we met , she was particularly fond of male attention.
She had/has a twitter account solely dedicated to NSFW content in which she used to post photos and audios for all the men and women that follow her . Anonymously of course. When we first met she didn’t tell me about this until nearly a month into our relationship, which definitely spawned a rift as well as finding saved in chat nudes with old talking stages on her phone she swears she forgot about but had recently messaged the guy on Snapchat . I forget the context or what she claimed was the context. I’ve been struggling to get over this , so I dug myself a hole and used GROK to see what leftover posts/replies she had she didn’t delete or didn’t seem necessary to delete.
It’s posts such as "please" and you get the hint. They are from 2023 but she had received active replies through til may this year , it’s not the fact she did it before me but rather the fact I can’t necessarily believe that she’s telling the truth . I’m worried about the Snapchat incident despite it being 5 months ago. She told me she deleted and stopped posting in 2023 despite getting replies in 2025 and late 2024 , I feel like she’s consistenly lying to me and I am worried she will cheat therefore I bring it up and it sparks a small argument . I’m not sure what to do. AITAH?
Pick better people
In short, Yes, YTA
Constantly bringing up the past rather than building a future based on current plans and actions will kill any relationship.
Completely agree. You either move forward together or you keep relitigating the past, and the second option guarantees the relationship will fail. You can’t build anything healthy while living in rewind.
Dude, you are not a match. And you should probably address your insecurities before dating again. You’re not ready.
That’s probably true . The issue being is that incident on Snapchat is kind of hard to move around
It isn’t just her. You need to actually tackle the insecurity issue itself. Because until you do, even a GF without problematic behavior is going to be a problem. And it isn’t the job of a GF to fix you.
This is about working on yourself, so that you can handle being with a GF.
For sure , I’ve been trying , I shouldn’t be so insecure . I’m relatively handsome and 6’4. There’s just a grey area with women who have been actively promiscuous, you’re an asshole if you let it be known it’s an issue but a cuck if you don’t. According to some redditors. Not entirely sure where to start though
YTA
You are in the situation and relationship you chose to be in. If you don’t b trust her, break up rather than constantly bringing up past events that don’t involve you.
YTA. You can’t deal with all that this woman is? LEAVE HER ALONE
YTA. if you can’t handle it, leave the relationship. But don‘t nitpick and whine someone to death over the past.
YTA. Seek therapy, you aren’t ready to date or have a relationship. When with someone, you can’t hold what they did before your relationship against them and yet, here you are. Let this woman find someone who can appreciate and care for her the way she deserves when trying to grow as a person, not someone trying to hold their past against them
Yta
YTA, Not disclosing an NSFW side hustle until 3 weeks in is just about right, actually. She’s not going to talk about that stuff on date 1, that would just put her at risk.
When you found out, you should have either accepted it or broken up right then. She’s done nothing to earn your mistrust. Being sexy online and being a liar are not correlated. There is nothing she can say to earn your trust because she never did anything to lose it. You have to decide to either trust her or not, just like with every relationship you’ll ever have.
Honestly I’m not sure why she’s still with you.
She’s with me because there’s alot we do for eachother , one Reddit post isn’t enough to contextualise a relationship, just advice for one issue. Nothing to lose my trust except the named Snapchat incident and that’s one of a few. However , I’m not naming the rest . I appreciate the honesty however , moving forward ASIDE from splitting up , would you say is the best course of action?
Insecure man dating a hoe