So I have a situationship deal with a girl and last night we ended up sleeping together, and it was multiple rounds, if she gives me a blowjob I can finish but for some reason whenever we have sex I just can’t, this isn’t the first time either, she tells me it’s ok and it’s nothing to worry about but I do get a bit embarrassed about it, if I hook up with another girl I don’t have a issue trying to finish but it’s just her, what does it mean?,
I spoke to someone in work and they said I could just be into her and trying not to finish to impress her but another friend said maybe my head just isn’t there and I’m not into it, we must of been out for about 3 hours last night and having a sex atleast 60% of that time, and I just couldn’t finish
Do you yank it all the time / do you have a super hard grip when you do? Chill on both you’re desensitized.
How often are you watching porn and masturbating?
I’ll almost guarantee that’s the answer
I’d lean towards the you’re just not totally feeling it side of things. You’re enjoying the act, but maybe something is just not quite clicking fully in place for you with this girl.
Maybe you’re just not emotionally or intellectually stimulated?
Do you watch porn a lot? That can do it as well.
If the box doesn’t make you cum thats crazy.
Yea its usually BJs I have a hard time finishing with, vag is trying not to cum too fast 😅
yeah same. I think one girl managed it and she basically insisted I face f her. but since this guy normally can with other women I think it is something others mentioned, condom, attraction, size and shape compatibility, going too often, there are many different reasons it could become harder to come( pun not intended)
Is she turning you off by doing something?
Stop watching porn! and do some cardio, like running.
After 2 weeks it should be better.
Thats the most common cause. should know more about your lifestyle to be sure.
At 20 and with a girl I was attracted to, I would’ve finished pretty quickly and been ready to go again almost immediately. I’ve never been with a girl I wasn’t attracted to so I can’t speak to that. But I think that’s a pretty big factor. So how attracted to this girl are you? Do you look at her sitting on the couch and think “damn, she’s pretty hot” or do you think “she’s ok, could stand to lose 5 pounds but regular sex vs no sex is good enough for me”?
I’m also older and didn’t have access to porn 24-7 the way people do today, but I do know too much porn is also a major risk for this. It’s both the frequency of unloading (which builds up a tolerance) and also the content you consume puts an expectation that if not met might make the regular stuff a let down. So for example, if you watch porn and the girl is always giving the guy head before they get into the sex, your brain might require that as an expectation and if you don’t get it it’s an immediate let down. Maybe you’re always watching Asian girls or skinny girls or girls with big tits or whatever and she doesn’t have these features? And actually I think expectations in general (even without watching porn) can be trouble. If you’ve got it in your head that you really want to do doggy style and then she shuts that down and wants to do missionary, sometimes that sort of thing can be enough of a let down that it can also be a roadblock.
Since you said it’s not a problem with other girls, pretty much rules out things like medications and stress, etc.
Do you watch porn, if so, how much?
You know yourself if its too much, and if so – ease off that sh\*\*\*…. Watch amateur couples for a while and just lean off as much as you can. Porn fucks you up in that sense mate, its not real…. Women dont sound like that, neither women nor men are ment to bend like that. Keanu reeves does crazy shit as John Wick, he cant do that shit in real life, neither can ((put in pornstar)).
You might go through phases like that. The more you think about it the more you’ll psych yourself out. Just do your best to enjoy yourself and your partner in many ways and it should pass.
If it gets worse or you’re really concerned, go see your doctor.
Do you like her?
If no, guilt.
If yes, pressure.
If neither, some parts just aren’t compatible.