I, 17F and my younger sister 12F are currently living in different countries due to unfortunate circumstances of our birth parents. I’m currently staying at my birth country with my father and stepmother and its really lonely without my younger sister. My sister left the country with birth mother 3 years ago. Both me and her facetime occasionally and some days I get too busy to call her as there is time separating us both.
So 30 minutes ago, I was facetiming her and apparently she was at her friend’s house. There is language barrier between us both and most of the time I use broken English for her comfort. So while we were talking, she tried to show me to her friend and she knows that I’m a huge introvert so to embarrass me she tried to make me talk with her friend. I moved my camera fastly so it wouldn’t show my face. She then went to another room. I sticked my tongue at her. She gasped and did the same. We then laughed and kept doing it until my father came to my room unannounced. He saw what I was doing and yelled at me for being immature. I was forced to end the call and he kept on lecturing that I’m not a child as my birthday is coming soon. I argued with him that I can do whatever I want and that I can be immature with my sister. He called me an asshole for it, just because I expressed my opinions.
So Reddit, am I the asshole for being immature?
It’s cute that you two are having fun over silly things
I’m sorry your parents put you in such a horrible position that you cannot have a better relationship with her. NTA she seemed to have fun with it. He should be happy that, despite his own decisions to separate you two, that you two can still have fun.
I wish parents like him would own the fact that their selfishness causes direct harm to their kids. This stuff makes me so mad. They choose to have kids. They choose to separate. They choose to have siblings in different countries. They don’t get to be anything but thankful that you want to still talk to your sibling and they still want to talk to you. He needs to be mature.
NTA 🙁 i’m sorry that your father is targeting his repressed feelings towards you. i’m in my 20s and if i did this to my sisters no one would give it a second thought. even if there is a language barrier, you guys are sisters, don’t let anyone make you feel bad for the way you bond with each other <3
NTA. You’re just having fun and being goofy with your little sister. Your dad sounds like the asshole here. You’re never too old to have fun!
I sometimes do it with my husband, so please ignore your dad and I hope you will never be too old for fun like that. NTA.
No you are NTA for *checks notes* having a friendly interaction with your sister. My children and I do this with each other and I’m a whole grown woman. Your dad needs to lighten up.
NTA. Honestly I knew right off the rip there was no way something so silly would make you the asshole but I will say that your dad is the stereotypical “third world country dad” and respect is a big deal with them (know from experience)
He’ll either mellow out over the years or you’ll have to learn to deal with it if you want to continue having a relationship with him but their ass backwards ways are just old school mentality from the 1900s and beyond.
My friend’s dad who is also a doctor is very open minded and isn’t so close minded about the current world
Educated people tend to be more liberal and open minded. Regardless of where they’re at, although region dictates alot of their hold ups.
NTA. I do worse than that and my sister and I are in our 50s. It’s especially fun to scratch our faces using middle fingers in front of our mother to see her do an eye roll.
I literally laughed at that
NTA at all. You were being silly with your little sister, not bullying her or disrespecting anyone. Your dad sounds like he equates “mature” with “never playful,” which is sad. If you feel up to it, maybe calmly tell him that being almost 18 doesn’t mean you have to stop being goofy with your sister.
NTA, being silly with your sister like that are moments your dad should be treasuring not freaking out over. 🙁 You can be do things like that at any age, you were both just having a fun moment of messing around. Enjoy whatever time you get to spend with your sister, I doubt it’s easy to be apart.
NTA “Parents just don’t understand”