I have been replaying the moment over and over in my head and I still cannot understand how someone who calls herself my friend could look me in the eyes, laugh it off, and act like my feelings were inconvenient background noise, and now I am torn between confronting her or cutting her out quietly because I cannot tell if I am overreacting or finally respecting myself.
Very much depends on the context. However, without knowing the situation, your boundaries are for you. They can’t be used to control the behaviour of other people. Thry set out what you will and won’t tolerate in a friendship or relationship. So, if someone has crossed those boundaries, it makes sense for you to step back from the friendship. Because you can’t control your friend’s behaviour. Only your own.
Feeling hurt when a friend dismisses your boundaries is valid. Talk to them if you can, but if they keep ignoring you, stepping back is healthy self-respect
You’re not the AH. Feeling hurt is valid your friend dismissing your boundaries shows a lack of respect. Confront her or step back to protect yourself
Kinda depends on wether she fucked your boyfriend or ate the last timtam
Hard to say. Did she forget your Starbucks order or something?