Hi , I (18f) have recently been going through a lot of issues with my breast health. I recently had a procedure done to help rule out if I have cancer, this was done exactly a week ago and I still haven’t gotten my results back. I figured no news is good news , and haven’t tried to follow up or call them back. Now the problem is my dad. For preface I love my dad and he does everything for me, he’s taken me to all my appointments and has been there for me throughout this whole scare. However he keeps pushing me to give permission to my doctors to call him and give him updates/results, and I don’t want to do this. It came to a boiling point today when he called me and told me to call my doctor in front of him on speaker so he can hear my results. I told him i’m not doing that , and he got very upset. I feel bad because I know it’s his insurance and he’s been the one taking me to my appointments. I just don’t understand why i’m not entitled to knowing what’s going on with my health privately. I wouldn’t keep my results from him I would tell him , which is why I think him having to listen in is overstepping my boundaries. But maybe i’m being selfish because i know he’s been very stressed out with it to?
TLDR: my dad wants me to call my doctor on speaker phone to hear my results, and i don’t want to.
NTA. He can be updated after the fact if you choose to do so. He has no right to know.
NTA but your dad is a massive asshole. You are an adult now and are entitled to medical privacy. He is not entitled to know what is going on with your health outside of what you choose to share. You are perfectly entitled to tell your doctor that you are being coerced into sharing medical information that you do not want to share
NTA – No one is an AH for keeping their health records private. You ARE entitled to know what’s going on with your health privately. It is a legal right. Your father’s desire to know is exceeding his ability to respect your autonomy. He cares and he’s worried, but you have to do right by yourself. The fact that you’re on his insurance is irrelevant.
NTA, you’re a legal adult and your medical information is private unless you choose to share it. If he’s not usually like this, then we can give him the benefit of the doubt and say he’s acting out of concern/worry. But even so, he’s dealing with it inappropriately.
Yes. Thats my thought as well. Hes a worried dad and she’s only now 18, so he’s probably used to being the one to get the information until now.
But he needs to realize now that she’s an adult and he isn’t privy to all of her information any more. He needs to listen to his daughter, sounds like she is willing and wanting to share all the Info with him anyway, she just wants the acceptance Thats she’s an adult now.
And he better listen soon or he’ll just end up driving a wedge in other wise seems like a good relationship.
NTA. Your medicals records and information are yours and yours alone, and you’re the only one who gets to decide who to share it with. I get that dad is concerned but it’s your decision.
Please make sure your doctor adhers to HIPAA.
This is a tough one. You are an adult in most places. You have every legal right to keep your information private. But I’m a father of multiple daughters, so I understand how your father feels. Y’all need to find a way to talk this out, establish boundaries with your dad, and don’t let this come between yourselves. I don’t see either one of you as an AH. Just didn’t shut each other out.
NTA. You’re entitled to privacy; and for many issues, privacy is important between the doctor and the patient even when the patient is in her late teens and maybe not legally of age. That last bit could be a bit iffy if you WERE under-aged, but honestly, both I and my next oldest sister, who left home to continue our education while under-aged (as was common in that time and place) got routine care from doctors on our own. Now, if one of us needed minor surgery (as happened with my sister), nothing got done without parental approval, but basic tests, prescriptions, etc. were all between us and our doctors.
Anyway. at 18, whatever the age of majority where you are, you should be handling these health issues yourself, and telling your father you’ll pass on anything he needs to know when you’re ready. He may simply be over-anxious, but he’s making things rougher for you, which is not right when you’re the patient.
First and foremost, NTA. It is your right as an adult to keep your medical information private, no matter whose insurance you are covered under.
Do you give your dad a little bit of grace, however. You are just now an adult, and there are probably several ways, not just your medical information, that he will need to make the adjustment between viewing you as an adult and viewing you as a child. It is on him to make that adjustment, but you can coach him through it.
Something to the effect of “hey dad, I know you are worried, and I know you have more experience dealing with doctors than I do, but this is something that I would prefer not to get pressured about. I will share the information with you, once I get it, but I’m not comfortable putting the doctor on speaker or having you call for me.”
Then call your doctor’s office and get a status.
NTA, you are absolutely entitled to your medical privacy. Hold that line, but try to remember that your dad is not trying to be an asshole. Last year he was part of your medical decision making. This year he’s not, and you might have cancer. The mental shift isn’t going to happen overnight.
I hope you get good news on the phone call.
NTA. As a parent of course he wants to know but you ARE an adult and have a right to privacy
You’re entitled to your privacy but you also shouldn’t assume that no news is good news. I’ve been in healthcare for 30 years and things sometimes get overlooked. You need to call them and get your results.
You being on his insurance is irrelevant. You are entitled to your privacy, and this is something you really shouldn’t back down on. Tell your dad that you know he’s concerned, but you will not be giving up your right to medical privacy. It really is ok if he’s upset about it. He will have to get over it.
NAH.
You want privacy. Understandable. Breast health is a sensitive topic. You may not be comfortable with sharigj everything with your dad. Understandable.
Your dad is concerned with your health. After all, whether you’re 18 or 28, you’re his child. He’d be concerned about you having any issues, about your health, and about your well being. A parent having to hear their child potentially having cancer is a very big stress thing for them.
You are right in your place, he’s right in his place.