So I (19M) work full-time at a café + do online classes. I usually don’t get a proper day off. Last Sunday was literally the *first* day in like three weeks where I didn’t have to wake up early, deal with customers asking for “extra hot oat milk foam,” or attend stupid Zoom lectures.
My sister (24F) lives with us temporarily because she’s “figuring things out.” Which mostly means she sleeps till noon and then complains that “nobody respects creatives.” Whatever.
Anyway, Saturday night I told everyone in the house that **I’m sleeping in on Sunday**. No alarms. No noise. No waking me up for anything short of a fire.
Cut to Sunday morning: it’s 6:47 AM and my door flies open like someone kicked it. My sister is freaking out because she can’t find her favourite black top. She’s blaming everyone, saying someone must’ve stolen it because “this house doesn’t appreciate boundaries.”
I literally woke up with my heart pounding thinking something happened to a family member. Nope. Just a missing crop top.
I told her, “Dude, I don’t care. I’m sleeping. Close the door.”
She kept going. For **ten minutes**. Ranting. Accusing. Opening my cupboard (??) to “check” if I took it.
I snapped and yelled:
**“GET OUT. IT’S MY ONLY DAY OFF. I DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR TOP.”**
She froze, called me an asshole, and left. Mom later told me I should have been “more polite” because my sister is “under stress.” My dad thinks the whole thing is stupid and told both of us to grow up.
But now my sister is giving me the silent treatment and telling relatives I “verbally attacked her at 7AM for no reason.”
So yeah.
**AITA for yelling?** I could’ve handled it better but bro… who wakes someone up before 7AM over CLOTHES??
NTA You were more polite than I would have been. Get a lock for your door.
And that’s, sadly, when the type of person the sister sounds like starts pounding on the locked door, anyway.
Nta but brace yourself as unfortunately I dont think her behavior nor living situation is changing anytime soon she sounds insufferable and my bet is that is why she’s homeless and jobless.
NTA why would her crop top be in your bedroom anyway??? Even if there’d been some weird laundry mix up, wear a different top!! there’s no reason to wake someone up.
Why is she so stressed? Why did she NEED a crop top at 6:47am?! NTA Im 42 and would react the same 😂
Lol good point. Apparently she sleeps in everyday but as soon as OP has a day to sleep in she needs a crop top before 7am?? Please. Unless she had some kind of appointment, I’d suspect it was on purpose for some reason.
Also, it’s winter in the ~~Western~~ Northern Hemisphere right now. Or damn close to it. Cold, is my point. Why does she need a crop top in December?
NTA. your sister sounds absolutely unbearable.
Are you not able to lock your bedroom door?
I would for one, be happier than a pig in shit that she isn’t talking to me but
Your mom is DEFINITELY enabling this behavior by coddling her. Bro, the stress she’s under is most likey self induced. She sounds bratty and entitled. Most people like her think the world owes them something, coming from the comment she made about “creatives” lmfao
Don’t apologize. Your mom is wrong. “Stress” doesn’t give her the right to be a total witch to her sister or anyone around her for that matter. How come it’s okay for your sister to bust open your door like she’s FBI?
If anything…
She needs to buckle down and get a real job since her “creative” ventures clearly aren’t working for her. She doesn’t have to let go of them completely but it’s about time she took responsibility for her life, her actions, her wellbeing and finances. She’s 24. Life comes at you FAST. Soon she’ll be 28 then 30 hits you like a steam locomotive. Maybe then she wouldn’t be such an unbearable person to be around and she might even be able to afford her own apartment. The fact she can’t find HER croptop speaks to how disorganized she is in her mind.
Welcome to the real world. Life is fucking stressful as fuck. So for everything that happens, she’s gonna have a breakdown? Absolutely ridiculous.
Wake her up every morning when you get up until she apologizes.
Seriously, why should she get to sleep in every day?
For someone who complains about not getting respect she’s people in glasshouses about giving it herself.
Next time she’s sleeping in burst into her room?
This is the only thing that works. “Oh! I thought it was okay to wake people up for useless reasons!”
NTA – Every morning before your job you should burst into her room and yell at her about a missing x,y,z. Give her a taste of her own medicine. Also, get a lock on your door.