I’ve always wondered about this, because sometimes it’s hard to tell.
For men: what changes in your behavior when you genuinely like a girl, compared to when you’re only interested in something casual or keeping things open?
I’d appreciate honest answers. This is something I’ve been trying to understand for a long time.
Open and not mysterious. Happy to see them. Make an obvious effort. Nervous.
It’s funny that nerves turn women off when it’s the bigger indicator that a guy genuinely likes you.
literally, I think it’s the biggest indicator and I think it’s adorable
Really? I would have thought most women don’t like it – they always want confidence and although, the other guy said otherwise – you usually don’t exhibit both at the same time. Nervousness usually looks awkward and the guy really hates it (that he is nervous) but can’t help it.
Nervousness only looks “awkward” because society has calloused you to think that. The more nervous someone is, the more they care. Period. Now, what exactly they care so much about is usually the bigger question.
I agree. But, what do you think they care about?
I am nervous around a girl I really like – even if I try not to be – I think it eventually shows…. it bothers me because if I am nervous, I think I don’t say what I want or whatever.
I think it means I care and I think that’s the only thing it means. Guys who have some interest or have a ‘devil may care’ attitude – usually aren’t nervous – they are not invested in the outcome – so, they are not nervous. I suppose some are so confident or whatever – or are used to talking to women so often, they aren’t nervous – but, are any of those ever so invested or care that much – that they do care about what happens?
So, my question is – what do they care about, exactly?
I think they care about whether she has mutual interest, whether she reciprocates interest and if she doesn’t, then that is one of the main reasons he’s nervous – that she won’t – and that is pretty devastating, the more you care.
If you don’t care that much, then you are able to forget it or move on or shrug it off. Right?
Genuine Intrest:
– You invite her to holiday events with family.
– You’re a bit nervous around her.
– You’re concerned about her having male friends.
Well, there is lots of cross over. As “being nice” covers a lot of things for both types.
If a guy really likes a woman he will treat her quite well, but it can be hard to tell if your just sitting there.
Often the guy will tease the woman, but not always.
Often the guy will listen to the woman…..but not too much.
I disagree but maybe some men are different. A guy who likes a woman a lot is invested or can be invested – and will listen…. he might not retain everything but will try – but, nervousness, anxiety, doubt etc. – might interfere with his intention to listen – but, I think most are listening – they want to show interest so want to show that they listened with their response(s).
He will treat her very well – to show interest but to also show he cares – which is actually a way to kill attraction or to at least make it more difficult – so they say.
That’s why the ppl who say guys who are stoic, nonchalant and not really reactive \*might\* intrigue a woman and there might be some attraction for the guy – more likely than the guy who makes it obvious he is interested by his treatment of her and what he does/says.
When I’m genuinely interested I put in more effort
If a man really likes the woman, she doesn’t have to come to the internet to ask questions about men’s behavior. I don’t know how else to put it.
Generally speaking that is. If the guy isn’t showing you with actions that he really likes you, then he probably doesn’t. If he doesn’t want to spend time of quality with you apart from sex, then I’d say he doesn’t like you that much.
If he’s taking you out on romantic dates, spending time talking to you one on one, going to the movies or whatever, activities as couples not related to sex, then that means he really likes you
I get super nervous.
Casual: playful, confident, unserious, flirty, silly, extraverted, mild bullying, happy to give her attention
Serious: shy, guarded, reserved, nervous, NEVER flirty, genuine, nurturing, will probably completely avoid her because if I don’t, I won’t be able to stop looking/thinking/obsessing about her.
Can’t stress this enough it’s completely based on the situation you are in with them. If it’s a dude you barely know it’s likely different