I noticed this even with my group of guys. They all assume I lack confidence because I wont holler at a woman. I wont go up to a woman with a loud voice at a bar and give her compliment. Or I wont tease them because being nice is seen as putting them on a pedestal. Unfortunately, I noticed women do respond better to guys who come this way.
However, what if that is not your personality. I personally never like going up to girls and throwing game like that. For example, i was in a concert and my friends what me to ask a girl to dance with me. They wanted me to whisper in her ear that I thought she was attractive and I wanted a dance. I didnt want to move that way though. I wanted to attract her with my vibe instead. In fact, if a girl responded to me because I got loud and tease her, I would lose respect. I am much more into the subtle approach. Like showing genuine interest and then asking them out for coffee later. Teasing them on things that was unique to them and asking deeper questions.
But this approach is seen as lacking bold assertiveness. Maybe I dont want to sleep with a women so quickly lol. Maybe I want it to be more about setting my eyes on a particular woman than moving to getting to know her.
Idk, but what do you guys think about this?
Has anyone ever told you that you care too much about what other people think?
This OP. ☝️
This has nothing to do with men and these people are individuals with their own personalities
I blame it on the misconception that posturing=confidence.
Who says that is confidence?
A non working clock is right twice a day
not a digital one
If i have to be careful with what i say, then i want her far away from me, fuck that shit.
They have their approach, and as you ironically pointed out, it works better than yours, and you have your own approach. The real question is why you’re so concerned about their opinion? I don’t think it’s about you caring about their opinion in the way some are suggesting in the comments here, rather you trying to answer a subconscious dilemma.
I think you’re asking why your approach doesn’t work better when the official narrative: women, media, print, everything, tells you that women in general want the kind of connection you are offering. Yet in real life, you see with your own eyes and experience that it’s not the case. And you see that men who use biological/psychological hacks are consistently more successful with women across the board, even the women who want connection.
My advice is to get into red-pill material. You don’t need to become one of those alpha douchebags, but you my friend definitely need to understand women much better. There’s a lot of low grade red-pill material out there but I promise you the core message is spot on. They will demystify women for you completely. What you do with that new insight and clarity will be up you.
Damn well said, and I’ve lived it!
>>> I wanted to attract her with my vibe instead.
So, did that work?
You want to attract her with your vibes? Oh brother