As of today I’m 23, studying ACCA finished my graduation in bachelor of commerce.
My routine
I wake up in the morning around 10:30am eat food cooked by mom and I feel sleepy the whole day until it’s 3pm but I will have the energy only for about 2hrs then I become tired again I doom scroll random apps even though I don’t have an Instagram. All my friends have reached places and I’m here like this with no job, no proper education.
How do I change my daily routine to a proper planned one I fall out always.
Been going to gym on and off and always end up demotivated.
I have a goal but I’m less motivated to reach there because in my subconscious mind I tend to lose even before I start something.
I believe god. But have bad thoughts about it.
First idea: anything is better than nothing. It’s really easy to fall into a sort of “all or nothing” mentality, where if you’re not going to the gym every day and you haven’t finished all your chores, that you’re a failure. That kind of thinking is a trap, an excuse to give up and do nothing. If you go to the gym even once a week, that’s better than not going; if you don’t get to the gym, but you take an hour-long brisk walk once a week, that’s still better than no exercise at all.
Next idea: nobody gets up, decides they want to run a marathon, and then runs a marathon that day. You have to build up to these things. Start with simple, achievable goals: go to the gym twice this week. Each day, do at one thing that either helps your personal cleanliness, or the cleanliness of your home. (maybe that’s a shower for you, maybe that’s sorting your laundry into piles, maybe that’s sweeping the kitchen floor) Part of what you want is *momentum*, a streak, a chain. It’s easier to build up slowly than to start at full blast, right? So if you can get a two-week streak of doing one thing each day for keeping yourself and/or your space clean, if you can get a month of going to the gym at least twice a week, then it’s easier to think about doing *more*.
Third idea: motivation *comes after* taking action, not before. The idea that you have to “be motivated” to do something is bullshit. It’s another trap to have an excuse to do nothing. The ancient Nike slogan is right: *just do it!* When you have to do a task, any task, set yourself a timer for 10 minutes and force yourself to work on it for those 15 minutes without distractions or breaks. Once the timer rings, you can decide if you want to keep working or not. You may discover that once you *start* working, you will become motivated to keep working, but don’t wait to “feel motivated”.
Sounds like you’re depressed and could use a bit more discipline in your life.
If you want things to improve you need to force yourself to do the healthy things, less doom scrolling would be a good start.
1) Pursue a healthy lifestyle.
a) This starts with diet. Eat healthy food, eat a variety of healthy food, in a well-balanced diet. If you’re unsure of what a healthy diet looks like, please study it. (And no, fad diets are not healthy diets.) Based on my country’s food guide, a healthy diet should contain plenty of fruits and vegetables, include whole grains, lots of water (8 cups a day), and a modest portion of protein foods (which includes eggs, beans, nuts, fish, and meat, although the WHO says red meat intrinsically causes cancer so maybe not that one). Prefer fresh food, avoid ultraprocessed food.
b) This also includes sleep. The modern generation has some of the worst sleep habits in a century. Adults are recommended to get 8 hours of sleep, including some sleep that takes place before midnight. Going to bed at 11pm should be considered late, but acceptable; going to bed at 1am should not be acceptable except in emergencies.
c) This also includes sunshine. Spending time outside, preferably in the morning, is good for your health and good for avoiding depression. (There’s a reason that the rainy city is also the suicide city.)
2) Social media is designed to addict you. I personally wouldn’t delete your accounts, but I would limit your usage of social media.
3) Find something productive that you are capable of doing each day, and do it. What you choose to do, let it be something you do with your hands rather than something on a screen. Go volunteer; clean up your room; do something good each day.
Everybody wants to save the world, but nobody wants to help put away the laundry.
Do the boring, repetitive improvements. Motivation comes from positive actions, not the other way around. The first weeks/months will be a dull grind, but as you improve the improvement will become addictive.