My family on my moms side had a reunion last Saturday at my uncles house, and my niece is my uncles daughter. Me and my niece are super close, we’re always hanging out together whenever we get to see eachother during family reunions.
I love her to bits, but last Saturday while I was playing with her, she suddenly remembered something and wanted to show me something, so i was like “haha, sure, What is it?”
She grabbed her phone and showed me a picture of her boyfriend’s instagram, he was about the same age as her and apparently they just got together 2 months ago. Shes like 11 years old, but she looked so excited to tell me that she had a boyfriend,
Her parents don’t know about it (if this is even important)
I tried to tell her gently, but I really don’t know if I should be prying into her social life now that I think about it, I told her
“Aren’t you too young to have a boyfriend?” And told her that she should be careful when getting into these kinds of things.
She kind of got upset and told me that its her life and she can do whatever she wants with it, then stomped out, clearly upset. She didn’t even try to talk to me at all for the rest of the weekend.
Aita?
Mild YTA relationships at that age aren’t anything serious, it’s just being friendly with a crush. I had my 1st “bf” around that age, we just hung out being crazy running around and held hands when nobody was looking lol
My first “boyfriend” was when I was 11, we went on a few dates to the movies (with my older sister chaperoning from a few rows back) and hung out as a “couple” with our friend group. Furthest we got was also hand holding and he kissed me on the cheek once.
I think my parents were okay with it because they knew it was going to last all of a month, which predictably it did, and then we went back to just being friends.
I have an 11 year old, boyfriends are basically just hugging and texting and face timing. It’s not that serious. My daughter and I are really open and this seems to be the general consensus. If anything you could cause a disconnect with her by saying that.
How is she your niece? Surely your cousin?
If it doesn’t affect her life, let her enjoy feeling special.
YTA. this is for her parents to decide, not you. also, your uncles daughter… doesn’t that make her your cousin?
i find it odd to engage in a private conversation with you little niece about her dating life… alone, just the two of you. if you’re really concerned you could go to her parents. it’s inappropriate to be telling other peoples children when they’re allowed to start dating.
it’s inappropriate to be talking to a little girl about dating, when she can date, who she can date, if your not her parent.
Your uncle’s daughter is your cousin, not your niece.