Okay, so basically, i have this friend Sandra who i argue with every day, we’re not friends anymore, but, we started being friends again after an argument.
Sandra was being attacked and flamed on WhatsApp by about 12 people because she called someone a loser for making fun of a guy with autism. I decided to jump in and say don’t call people losers because that’s really mean. They started making fun of Sandra’s bpd and i didnt want to get involved because i’ll be in trouble too, also note they were sending death threats. BTW I knew Sandra for 6 years and we have frequent arguments and i knew 6 of those 12 people for 2 months but honestly they’ve been better friends to me than Sandra was. I decided to go on a movie outing with them 2 days later and i decided to tell Sandra. Best thing ive ever done in my life because guess what? She lashed out and said that I was the worst friend she ever had. Honestly idc. She blocked me on everything EXCEPT Snapchat. The freedom I felt i had was insane.
5 hours later she begs to be friends again and writes something like 5 paragraphs about how much she’s sorry. I say no because i’m sick of her ruining everything. I feel free, not sure if this was the right thing though. I see her the next week alone with no one.
Please tell me you’re all 12.
Are you all 12?
YTA, so because she called someone out for being an AH about someone with Autism, and instead of backing her, you called her out for calling them out? WTF. You should have defended her and backed her. Granted, she probably shouldn’t have called him a loser. Instead you went the easy route and in do many words supported the loser who was making fun of the person with autism.
The drama of young people…
Your friend stood up for a person that your other friends were making fun of. Then they proceeded to make fun of her.
But they are better friends to you? Maybe ask yourself what will happen when they decide to make fun of you. Who will stand up for you?
Edit to add: yes, YTA
It’s ok to make fun of autistic people, but calling someone a loser is a step too far? YTA
So it´s mean to call someone a loser, but not mean for someone to make fun of a guy with autism, ok…. logic has left the building ig.
I mean, ESH really, you for feeding this toxic behaviour and hanging out with crazy people that send death threats and claim you don´t want drama (what´s to say they aren´t going to turn on you?) and hanging out with people who make fun of others ailments.
But if you felt free for not hanging out with her, you are not in the wrong for leaving that friendship, but like you chose worst people to hang ouy tbh.
Jesus just stop being friends this is a terrible friendship. YTA for calling someone out for standing up for people and for having terrible friends
Let me get this straight. You went out with 2 people from the What’s App group that had people in it sending death threats? YTA and I think you have poor critical thinking skills. How can they be great friends and they’re bullying someone with Autism?
YTA and so are those people on WhatsApp
ESH – time grow up now, children.
YTA. If you had actually stayed out of it that would be one thing. But you didn’t. You jumped in and joined in the attacking.
So, in summary, you sided with the bullies mocking and harassing people for neurodivergence, joining them in attacking someone you claim to have seen as a friend, who was calling out the bullies for their bullying behavior?
Yes, my sweet summer teenager, YTA, at least insofar as this particular incident.
To be clear, that’s about how you handled the interaction- you say you “didn’t want drama” and “didn’t want to get involved” but did in fact involve yourself, and did so by insulting her- you weren’t just “not sticking up for her,” you were joining the rest of the group in attacking her. THAT’S the crappy behavior.
You aren’t *required* to be friends with Sandra if you don’t want to be, but there are good ways to handle that and there are crappy ways. Joining the other kids in attacking her because you haven’t yet developed as much spine as she has is one of the crappy ways.
(ETA: clarity.)
Yta nobody needs loser friends like you
You are most definitely the asshole.