My spouse opened and drank a bottle of wine that we had picked out together without offering me any. I realized that it had happened because I asked what he was drinking at dinner tonight, and he said "wine". I said that I didn’t know we had a bottle open, at which point he said that he had opened a bottle yesterday while I was getting our baby to sleep and he was cooking dinner. He hadn’t thought to offer me any. There was a tiny amount left, which he planned to drink tonight. The bottle in question was my favorite kind of wine, and we had picked out the bottle together. We had intended to drink it over a special dinner, but ended up saving it for another time.
We very rarely have wine at home; we probably open one bottle a month on average because we don’t have a huge income and we don’t prioritize spending it on alcohol, although we both enjoy wine. I told him that I was upset that he had opened something that he knew I especially liked. He replied that he didn’t know it was my favorite. (It has always been my favorite, and we’ve been married for several years.)
He then proceeded to sulk and tell me that, while he agreed that he did something wrong, I should have cut him more slack because he had been cooking our dinners recently and has been up early with our baby more often than me. I feel that this is a separate issue and can’t imagine a scenario in which I wouldn’t share wine with him. I told him that I was upset, but then I didn’t dwell on it. I think it is fair for me to tell him how I was feeling about it, despite the many other kind things he has done lately.
Should I have said nothing? AITA?
A bottle of wine or a tub of icecream – it’s absolutely rude to wipe off the entire thing without considering the other person in your house. NTA
Your husband is a dumb pig. If you were people who frequently purchased bottles of wine, this would be a dumb argument. But he knew it was your favourite, he knew you’d purchased it together to drink TOGETHER, and he sucked back the whole bottle in one night. There is zero way he didn’t realize you’d want some, too. He knew and he drank it anyway because his little piggy self must be centered at all times. He’s been cooking dinner and parenting his own child? Boo fucking hoo. I could never respect this dude.
He wasn’t smart enough to purchase a 2nd bottle after he sucked down the 1st bottle!