My kids birthday is quickly approaching & I haven’t been able to pick a venue until now. I’ve wanted to do it at a park, but this time of year it’s hard to do that where I live. But, it seems on my kids birthday we’re gonna get a break from the cold rain. I had this great idea to do it at the park in my grandma’s neighborhood. This way my dad & brother can participate too. They usually have to stay home from events because my brother has special needs and doesn’t like to go out much. But, also because my parents have been divorced for over 20 years & don’t talk to each other. My dad has been my brother’s sole caretaker with the help of only my grandma. I have a lot of feelings about how we were raised, but grandma and dad do their best. I started getting closer with my mom’s side of the family as I got older, but not really my mom. We’ve had our moments of closeness, but over all our relationship is still pretty strained. My dad understandably really really doesn’t like my mom and holds a grudge against her and some of her family members for not being there for my brother and I growing up. But, especially because he’s had to do it all while she didn’t help or pay child support. I totally understand why he feels the way he does about her. Deep down I definitely feel the same way. I see her about 2-3 times a month, but only because she lives at my grandpa’s where I help babysit my cousin. After I had my kid she would babysit until we arranged for me or his dad to bed able to stay home with him. The last time my parents saw each other was almost 9 years ago at my highschool graduation. My brother was not there. The only time she’s seen my brother in the last like decade was like 5 years ago when I brought him with me to family Christmas. The last time all 4 of us was in the same area was like 15 years ago. I’m really nervous about what will happen and not sure if I should even do the party at the park anymore even though I was so excited and my baby loves going to this park. I have so many memories in this park since it was the one I grew up playing at. Adding my baby’s birthday party to that list makes me wanna cry happy tears. But, the thought of something popping off or one of them storming off in the middle of the party honestly makes me sick to my stomach. WIBTA for going through with this idea and having all for of us "together" after this long of my mom not being involved in my brother’s life ??