Hi everyone. Long time reader, first time poster.
My (M32) fiance (F27) has been asking me for a few weeks now if she’s alright to invite her best friend and her partner round for new year’s eve for some board games, music and typical celebrations.
Her friend is a lovely person, I have no issues with her. Her boyfriend is a terrible person. I’ve been told many story on different occasions about how terrible he is. He’s written in his diary how he one day wants to leave my partners friend and truly fall in love (lol). He also scrounged off her living arrangement for a while (whilst working full time) and didn’t pay her any rent or bills when she asked he just said he would be never did. He’s also just not my kind of guy, I find him pretty dull and I don’t want to fakely be nice to him all evening when I can’t stand him.
Should I stop being firm on my decision, or am I being an arsehole?
I think you should talk to your fiance and her friend. If it’s going to make things worse for them if he doesn’t come you should let him.
What is wrong with not being around someone who makes you uncomfortable? Isn’t this a right? Of course NTA.
I wouldn’t say you’re an asshole here, but there is a balance when it comes to making an effort with partners friends. If it was one of your good friend’s partners that your fiancé refused to entertain on an occasion like this how would you feel? Not saying you should put up with this guy but the shoe may be on the other foot some day
NTA. Just be honest with her though. I don’t spend my time with people I don’t wanna be around, but I make it known why.