For privary reasons i wont state any usrernames or what platform this has happened on, but since september this one guy asked "can you please make things for me?" when in my bio it was clearly stated that commisions and requests were not open and art trades are for friends only, i explained to them that i dont take requests, they seemed dissapointed and went "Oh okay" and i thought it was over, when i posted a new piece of artwork that i was proud of i stated that i wanted to make fanart for the people that inspired me to be myself and gave me advice on how to improve my art, the same person then asked for art and said "you mean you would give art to me right?" i eventually gave in as i thought they were a child who wanted someone to draw their character and because i acted the same way as a child myself, so i gave in out of pure pity and drew their request,
i gave the person their request thinking i did something nice just to be met with "Cool, can you make more things?" which honestly baffled me a little, because normally when i draw for people i get a "thank you so much this is cool" or "THIS IS SO COOL CAN I USE IT AS MY PFP!!!111!!!" and as much as i love seeing people happy, this to me felt like they were not happy, i told them that i wanted to work on my own art and focus on school, i got nothing from that, but everytime i uploaded they would ask for requests and saying they still want things, i accepted again because i kinda did have fun with the first request and even learned how to draw something new, but i also felt really bad, so i accepted again, this time they gave over 6 requests in one go and i was only able to complete half from burnout and school, during this time they spammed new requests despite me telling that i had other of their requests, they seemed depressed and said "Im going through a rough time, people used to make things for me all the time, now i get little" and i really felt bad, but explained that i had projects due and that i was struggling with my physical and mental health that i also wanted to work on,
I went on an alt account to check his profile as from that comment i thought something has happened and they were quite upset about it, their comment section had people bullying and ragebaiting them, so i decided to check his stats see what they commented in the past and saw that they were asking multiple artists for free art, they also have allegations of stealing art and disguising requests as fetish art which were all true, i was disgusted and didnt wanna work with them, but i wanted to be nice and i told them requests were closed and they started begging for them, when i said no because i had assigments and i wont have acccess to my laptop in 2 weeks time because i am going to see my family for christmas, they said "I dont know what to say" which i found disrespectful, from that point i started ghosting them completely because of the allegations and screenshots against them, am i in the wrong?
NTA; when you have said “no” to a stranger, it’s time to end the conversation. No explanation needs to be provided. And as you experienced, further discussion results in your being badgered until you either get worn down or become exasperated. In your case, both happened.
Just ignore and block this person, they are not worth your time and energy. And you don’t owe them any reasons or explanations for a “No”!
NTA
Just block him. What’s the issue with that?
And no, NTA for not wanting to give free art, but you aren’t being firm enough in denying requests. Maybe just a simple “I don’t take requests, sorry” and leave it at that. You don’t owe any explanation.
obviously NTA, you have absolutely no obligation to do anything for this person, you don’t owe them shit. block ’em and move on ith your life, OP. pls stop letting some weird rando on the internet boss you around and guilt trip you for this when you have absolutely no connection to them.
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This is just someone trying to mooch off of artists. Just block them.
NTA. Firstly, you don’t owe a stranger your time and effort like that. Second, you did them a kindness and they responded by demanding more – at that point (and even before) you would have been well within your right to block them.
Now, you find out they’re a scammer and grifter who has pulled this with other artists, and they continued to completely ignore your boundaries and other commitments. Friend, please block this belligerent AH
I’ll say “NTA” hoping it gives you courage to actually enforce your own boundaries.
If you don’t want to do something, then *don’t do it.* Just stop responding & block them. Christ.
NTA. Just remember, “No” is a full sentence. You may also respond with “you’re not entitled to my free labor”.
Nta.
You have a couple of options here,
You can block them
You can explain that you are are a real person not an ai and these pieces take time that you do not wish to put into them
You can offer to do them on a time line that works for you for an F You price. Basically an absurd amount of money that if he agreed to would make it worth your while to deal with him (paid in advance probably)
NTA. You need to learn to use the block feature of whatever platform you’re on
NTA. You seem like a very kind and patient person. We accept the love we think we deserve. It is easy to justify helping people who don’t treat us well, and I’m glad you were able to make the most of it. There are people out there who will support your art and show you kindness. It is human nature to react stronger to negative stimuli, than positive. However, it is up to you to choose what you respond to.
Refusing to do free labor for people is actually an okay choice that society is kindof based on. Even in the age of generative AI, when it’s pretty cheap to generate something that has at least many of the properties of art, artists are not obliged to perform free labor, even for those who ask nicely.
NTA. Block this person. And I will tell you this, you are way too nice to other people at your own expense, you never need to do this for anyone. It doesn’t even matter what the reason is, it is always ok to say no and you never need to feel bad about it.
I also don’t think it’s wrong to do things for others because you want to be nice, but I think it’s good to draw a line, if someone ever guilts you into doing something, then that’s too far, don’t do it for them.
And take care of yourself and know you’re awesome!