So basically after a few years someone I received a message from someone I hadn’t heard from in years and after some chatting she told me something I’m sure I wasn’t supposed to share. But since it was something I was completely shocked about I told some of my friends and told them her „Secret“ and asked for advice to help her. So did I do the right thing or should I’ve kept it between me and her ?
Edit: of course I didn’t mention any names or something that could give the person away just something I couldn’t handle
MISSING CONTEXT brother what? Please make a post that makes sense
Something about secret massages
Info: did you disclose her identity or would her “secret” be enough for your friends to identify her? Sometimes you gotta ask for advice about things people tell you, but how you go about it makes the difference.
YTA. Someone told you something in confidence and you blabbed.
Yes. Obviously YTA. If someone says dont tell anyone and you tell people, then you dont deserve friends.
INFO: So, you spoke to someone you hadn’t spoken to in a long time, they told you some gossip/life drama, you told a bunch of other people, and now… people want to help her? So, what was the secret? Like, I don’t need details, but if she was in danger or something like that (abusive relationship, financial hardship, etc.) then I’d vote N T A if your intentions were to get her help. If it was purely juicy gossip and you just “had to tell someone” then Y T A.
So basically She told me that she willingly tried to kill herself And I didn’t know what to do so I aked my friends for advice
Do they know her? I think you mentioned they do not. If you kept identifying information out of it, and were simply seeking guidance, NTA.
That is definitely something she needs help with, be it mental health counseling, or perhaps a short voluntary commitment for help. If you did this with good intentions, then I don’t think that makes you the AH.
I didn’t mention any names just that I can’t handle this information on my own and needed some advice on what to tell her
YTA for both blabbing a freking SECRET and for writing a post thats barely understandable.
You receive a message. You reserve a table. You get a massage at a massage parlor.
YTA unless it was about domestic abuse or something similar. Blabbing others’ secrets is a no-go
Do you really have to ask this question?
If it was not someone the other friends knew, like a total stranger and no connection then probably NTA, we all need places to process. But if they are common friends then it is definitely a breach of trust.
Take out the “kinda” and read the title again. YTA.