I female teen has this one who friends that I’ll be calling C, for a while she was dating my ex bff who was extremely toxic to me and once I stop being friends with her a few years ago she had chased me down a hallway yelling at me after harassing me multiple days in a row, we cut ties after that and she switched schools the year after but now she’s back in the same school as me and she started dating my friend C, and since they had started dating I was open that I did not approve of the relationship but knew I couldn’t do anything about it and so I would make jokes about my friend C’s relationship with my ex bff and I would sometimes make jokes about them breaking up but I wouldn’t do it as constant thing and only made the breaking up jokes at the beginning of their relationship and would instead make jokes about my ex bff and C would always take them in a humorous way, but after a while over the course of a few months my friend C started getting distant and would hang out with her other friends during lunch instead of me and some of our other friends and she would alternate between spending lunch with her other friends for a few days of the week and would then spend the rest of the week with me and our other friends and around that time I stopped making the jokes, but my ex bff and C has broken up and now she’s not speaking to me or sitting with me at lunch, I know I have to give her time but it’s been a few weeks and when I ask our other friends if she’s been weird to them lately they say no, so now I’m kinda panicking and I just feel that this is my fault and I don’t know what to do, but I also feel angry at her because she knew going into the relationship that I had a bad track record with my ex bff but I don’t have many friends and she was one of my first friends after three years of suffering with severe anxiety and depression and having no one and I just feel that she’s not speaking to me because of something I did but I don’t know what I did so know I just need to know am I the asshole?
You’re not the asshole for feeling protective, but those jokes probably hit a nerve for your friend. Even if she laughed at first, things change when emotions get messy. Give her some space, then try a chill talk to clear the air. Friendships need that honesty, no drama.