I just recently met this guy, we started flirting day one but i seen it as friendly since we weren’t labeling anything obvious as it was a new friendship (I am a basically bisexual and so is he) Recently after a few weeks i made a new friend with a girl, and he got extremely upset at me for matching outfits on a game with her. Yes i was matching him at first, but i wanted to match with my friend when i played with her, and would switch it back to match him when id hangout with him. Me and him were matching profile pictures before, but he kept getting upset and dry with me, due to him being dry and not communicating properly with me (he often said whatever it doesn’t matter when id ask him why he was actually upset) i decided to just hangout with the girl more, mind you he was in fact matching profile pictures with other people on a different app, even if it was a friend he knew for a while, i never said anything about it because i had no place as we were FRIENDS who flirted. After a bit of time, as he was still mad at me, he decided he wasn’t gonna do his finals, which made if feel like it was my fault even though i was just hanging out with the girl while he went to school. (i don’t even know if he did the final or not) after sometime, he put a persons name in his status with a heart and took out the heart for mine, i didnt say anything about it and just decided to put the girls in mine since i assumed it was fine do to, he got mad at me for it and called whatever we were off and became friends. He was dry as ever after that. It didn’t last long though as he kept confessing he really liked me and stuff so we started talking again, but each time i hangout with the girl hes gotten upset. Was he wanting me to just block my friend because he was jealous? We weren’t anything official so i dont get why he would be considered in the right here, but maybe im just clueless.
He then got mad at me this morning right before i was going to sleep, saying he felt like a backup, a second choice. but what am i meant to do when hes not giving any energy into our conversation, how am i gonna text him if i myself feel like im just bothering him because hes been upset with me. He again called us off, and now hes drier than before.
was i in the wrong for this?
it’ll all make more sense when you reach high school
NTA. Sounds like this guy can’t handle you having other friends, which is a huge red flag. That’s not on you, it’s on him. He clearly doesn’t communicate and tries to guilt trip you instead. You tried to understand but he’s just being petty. Convo being dry? Not your fail. Him prioritizing his jealousy over finals is on him. You have every right to have other friends and he needs to respect that. Don’t fall for his games. Stay solid. Keep doing you. 🔥
thank youu
Okay so first off all I’d like to say NTA AND RUNNNNNNN. Honestly by reading this post I can tell your age and let me tell you, this boy ISNT good for you. This boy is manipulative and projecting his insecurities and wrongdoings onto you.
Secondly How is he getting angry for you having a friend when you’re not even together. (I’d like to clarify this is also weird behaviour coming from a partner).
The third thing I’d like to say is that 80% of boys that age who say they’re scared of being a “back up” or getting cheated on, are the ones who are using you as a safety net aka a back up or are cheating or contemplating cheating.
This is such typical behaviour from manipulators and gaslighters. Get out and block him from your life as soon as you can before Hes got you where he wants you to be. This is going to sound harsh but this boy doesn’t care for you, he cares about the idea of having you. He wants you all to himself but he can have whoever. It’s the typical mindset lots of young teenage boys carry.
Focus on friendships for now.
now you got me curious how old you think i am LOL but yeah.. ive gotten a lot of people telling me to block him for his behavior and that was before it got this bad (on different platforms)
Ghahaha I’d say 14-15 maybe 16 but pushing it, then again age has nothing to do with intelligence in relationships. It’s all about experience and I can say for myself I had a situationship like this at 15 and he had me wrapped around his finger for 8 months all for him to be the one who cheated. (He behaved the exact same way this guy does)
sadly me and him are much older 💀💀 I just wanted to see how others reacted to this issue i was having since it does bother me, i know logically the best thing is to leave him for my own well being, but i wanted others point of view on how they see it. also that sucks with what happened to you, nobody deserves to be treated like that and cheated on.. people need to better ngl..
This is gonna sound bad but Im glad for him doing that to me. Took the love goggles right off my eyes and I was able to see others intentions much clearer. I think maybe you should settle this guys ego if your up to it🤣🤣
haha, i get that, sometimes it is better to see the truth in whats happening than to stay blind and in love 😭
🚩 big time
who is..?
Your male friend.
ohh, yeahh i thought so..